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Wow. Indirectly heard from N's birthmom!
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<blockquote data-quote="Ropefree" data-source="post: 232709" data-attributes="member: 6271"><p>MidwestMom: What is so helpful on this site is the glimpses into the layers of love and care Mothers and Fathers wrap their children. How and why and when to add and when to unbundle...and what I admire about your expressiveness is the detail you think through!</p><p> i have felt that open adoption is a better idea than the closed type because, in reality, fertility is a sign of health and when a person is cut off from all knowledge about their parents they are left blind to their ENTIRE history. Star pointed out we all want to know who we look like, and those family resemblances may not be direct to Mom or Dad. my son looked so much like his greatuncle as babies and we have a photo from the 30's next to a photo from the 90's of two babies with the same ears, hair line, expression, and body pose. My Dad at the time of my birth and I did not resemble one another but his school year book photo shows some of the features we do share. </p><p> The medical history info is going to be so much more useful with the improved techknowleges and diagnostics.</p><p> And I think you are making clear boundaries when you are checking out who the birth mom is now and also to be very certain that the daughter you have braced close to your heart is getting what she needs in terms of conseling, and perspective. I also feel that giving a child a childhood...giving them the time and safe environment to grow and learn and become is the central priority of parenting. </p><p> Congratulations on finding a way to some of the answers that puzzled you about the birthparents.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Ropefree, post: 232709, member: 6271"] MidwestMom: What is so helpful on this site is the glimpses into the layers of love and care Mothers and Fathers wrap their children. How and why and when to add and when to unbundle...and what I admire about your expressiveness is the detail you think through! i have felt that open adoption is a better idea than the closed type because, in reality, fertility is a sign of health and when a person is cut off from all knowledge about their parents they are left blind to their ENTIRE history. Star pointed out we all want to know who we look like, and those family resemblances may not be direct to Mom or Dad. my son looked so much like his greatuncle as babies and we have a photo from the 30's next to a photo from the 90's of two babies with the same ears, hair line, expression, and body pose. My Dad at the time of my birth and I did not resemble one another but his school year book photo shows some of the features we do share. The medical history info is going to be so much more useful with the improved techknowleges and diagnostics. And I think you are making clear boundaries when you are checking out who the birth mom is now and also to be very certain that the daughter you have braced close to your heart is getting what she needs in terms of conseling, and perspective. I also feel that giving a child a childhood...giving them the time and safe environment to grow and learn and become is the central priority of parenting. Congratulations on finding a way to some of the answers that puzzled you about the birthparents. [/QUOTE]
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