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<blockquote data-quote="Hanging-On" data-source="post: 373277" data-attributes="member: 2325"><p>Thanks for the replies. I'm trying to figure out why it makes me so mad though, and why I just won't make the respite appointment. If I can figure that out, and come to terms with what the REAL issue is for me, then I can fix it. It's like he can act anyway he wants with us, and then go have FUN. He just skates free all the time. No sorry, no accountability, no consequences, no punishment, no guilt or conscience, no nothing negative for him. But for me and easy child, we carry the sadness, the heartbreak, the hurt feelings, the extra workload, the repair work of broken things or the hard emotional labor of throwing away something important to us because it's now broken, the elimination of what we want to do because he'd ruin it or not allow it to begin with, the hidding our stuff so it won't get broken or stolen, etc. I mean, respite PAYS for difficult child to do all that fun stuff...not me. Who pays for me and easy child to go do something....no one. And with difficult child in the family again my work hours have decreased because I get to work late, or have to leave early, or difficult child has appointments, etc. So less hours, less money. So no money for easy child and I do something fun. So we are forced to stay home and do chores to get something done before difficult child comes home, because once he's home, it takes 4 times longer to do anything. This whole thing just pisses me off so much I could spit. Gosh I hate feeling this way. I just want to be my easy going, live and let live person again.........but I just don't know where it is right now. And I'm just trying to hold it all together, and TRYING not to react to his ****. Some days are harder than others though....sigh.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hanging-On, post: 373277, member: 2325"] Thanks for the replies. I'm trying to figure out why it makes me so mad though, and why I just won't make the respite appointment. If I can figure that out, and come to terms with what the REAL issue is for me, then I can fix it. It's like he can act anyway he wants with us, and then go have FUN. He just skates free all the time. No sorry, no accountability, no consequences, no punishment, no guilt or conscience, no nothing negative for him. But for me and easy child, we carry the sadness, the heartbreak, the hurt feelings, the extra workload, the repair work of broken things or the hard emotional labor of throwing away something important to us because it's now broken, the elimination of what we want to do because he'd ruin it or not allow it to begin with, the hidding our stuff so it won't get broken or stolen, etc. I mean, respite PAYS for difficult child to do all that fun stuff...not me. Who pays for me and easy child to go do something....no one. And with difficult child in the family again my work hours have decreased because I get to work late, or have to leave early, or difficult child has appointments, etc. So less hours, less money. So no money for easy child and I do something fun. So we are forced to stay home and do chores to get something done before difficult child comes home, because once he's home, it takes 4 times longer to do anything. This whole thing just pisses me off so much I could spit. Gosh I hate feeling this way. I just want to be my easy going, live and let live person again.........but I just don't know where it is right now. And I'm just trying to hold it all together, and TRYING not to react to his ****. Some days are harder than others though....sigh. [/QUOTE]
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