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<blockquote data-quote="Fran" data-source="post: 37916" data-attributes="member: 3"><p><span style='font-size: 11pt'>Wiped out, her reaction is teen drama of a easy child who has been penned up with a difficult child for the last 9 yrs. At least that is what I would think. I doubt there isn't a easy child who hasn't hated their difficult child sibling for disrupting holidays, birthdays, school functions, ruining special days, embarassing easy child's, causing mom's to cry,parents to fight and no one to have energy left for easy child. </p><p>It's pretty awful to be the sibling of a severe difficult child. </p><p>My easy child had a lot of strong reactions to difficult child once he hit puberty. I have no doubt that easy child wished difficult child to disappear to the end of the earth and stop causing so much pain within the family. At that point we decided that easy child should have as much positive attention for just doing things as he should as difficult child got when he was negative and difficult. Our easy child has gotten a lot more freedoms and opportunities because he has done the right thing. There is a life long conversation with easy child about life handing you things you don't expect and how character is what you do when it's lemons. You can become bitter and angry and allow it to affect your outlook on life or you can make lemonade. </p><p>Eventually, you will realize that the relationship between easy child and difficult child may not be something that is yours to fix and you will have to let it go to be what it is. </p><p>Your difficult child says some horrid things that are devastating and undermining things to you on a regular basis. It erodes your self confidence and brings you pain. You understand as an adult. This little 13 yr old will be permanently affected by a pretty tough difficult child. This is a fact. Hopefully with the love and support of a stable home(parents) she will come to put this all in perspective. </p><p>I can understand easy child's anger and profound sadness. There were many days when I wish I could walk away and never see difficult child again. I was worn down and had nothing more I wanted to give up to difficult child's disorders. I can only imagine how tough this is on a 13yr old. </p><p></p><p>Therapy is a good idea. Mother daughter time is a good thing. I took easy child to lunch once a month. Just he and I. Some quiet quality time to just talk about what he wanted to talk about. We gave him summer camp that he loved because he was such a good kid. If difficult child got camp for being a terror, then easy child should have something he loved for doing the right thing. </p><p></p><p>We still have little issues and easy child has gotten good about trying to manipulate me but I'm pretty good at laughing at it. It's usually harmless. </p><p></p><p>Anyhow, I know it hurts to know easy child has been so burnt and has such negativity within your family. The truth is difficult child's can be incredibly destructive. easy child's, spouses,family and friends can all grow to resent difficult child. I am not surprised at your easy child. </span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Fran, post: 37916, member: 3"] <span style='font-size: 11pt'>Wiped out, her reaction is teen drama of a easy child who has been penned up with a difficult child for the last 9 yrs. At least that is what I would think. I doubt there isn't a easy child who hasn't hated their difficult child sibling for disrupting holidays, birthdays, school functions, ruining special days, embarassing easy child's, causing mom's to cry,parents to fight and no one to have energy left for easy child. It's pretty awful to be the sibling of a severe difficult child. My easy child had a lot of strong reactions to difficult child once he hit puberty. I have no doubt that easy child wished difficult child to disappear to the end of the earth and stop causing so much pain within the family. At that point we decided that easy child should have as much positive attention for just doing things as he should as difficult child got when he was negative and difficult. Our easy child has gotten a lot more freedoms and opportunities because he has done the right thing. There is a life long conversation with easy child about life handing you things you don't expect and how character is what you do when it's lemons. You can become bitter and angry and allow it to affect your outlook on life or you can make lemonade. Eventually, you will realize that the relationship between easy child and difficult child may not be something that is yours to fix and you will have to let it go to be what it is. Your difficult child says some horrid things that are devastating and undermining things to you on a regular basis. It erodes your self confidence and brings you pain. You understand as an adult. This little 13 yr old will be permanently affected by a pretty tough difficult child. This is a fact. Hopefully with the love and support of a stable home(parents) she will come to put this all in perspective. I can understand easy child's anger and profound sadness. There were many days when I wish I could walk away and never see difficult child again. I was worn down and had nothing more I wanted to give up to difficult child's disorders. I can only imagine how tough this is on a 13yr old. Therapy is a good idea. Mother daughter time is a good thing. I took easy child to lunch once a month. Just he and I. Some quiet quality time to just talk about what he wanted to talk about. We gave him summer camp that he loved because he was such a good kid. If difficult child got camp for being a terror, then easy child should have something he loved for doing the right thing. We still have little issues and easy child has gotten good about trying to manipulate me but I'm pretty good at laughing at it. It's usually harmless. Anyhow, I know it hurts to know easy child has been so burnt and has such negativity within your family. The truth is difficult child's can be incredibly destructive. easy child's, spouses,family and friends can all grow to resent difficult child. I am not surprised at your easy child. </span> [/QUOTE]
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