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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 200028" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Hey, Bran, well done!</p><p></p><p>And y'know? You got the most important piece of information of all, out of that exchange. What she told you, loud and clear, is that she has been, and is trying now, to push your buttons as her primary aim. A lot of what you're worrying about MAY be happening but if it is, there's no way she would ever confide in you (few kids would) so there's really no point in asking.</p><p></p><p>The best way to find out what is REALLY going on is NOT to ask questions,but to leave silences for her to talk into. THAT is when she is most likely to tongue-trip and tell you more than she intended.</p><p></p><p>Meanwhile, remember the wonderful modern proverb about parents' revenge - live long enough to be a problem to your children!</p><p></p><p>And you can start now. What do you think is gonigthrough HER head right now? Picture it. </p><p></p><p>"My mom is being really weird, I don't know what's up. I said several times that I had business to attend to, I know she's always read that i the past as me doing drug deals - and all she said was, 'that's nice. Have a good day.' What is she up to?"</p><p></p><p>So now, bran, if you want to have a little bit of fun, you can begin YOUR mind games. Don't just jump in, think about it carefully and be subtle. What particular conclusion would you like her to jump to? Or do you just want to keep her gently off balance without specifics?</p><p></p><p>Things to do:</p><p></p><p>Wear perfume and makeup around the house. Pay really careful attention to your appearance. </p><p></p><p>Leave a travel brochure lying around but not too much out in the open. Maybe next to the phone, if you have to leave it in the open. Otherwise, have it half under a cushion on the couch.</p><p></p><p>A real estate brochure next to the phone is a good one.</p><p></p><p>Other things to leave next to the phone (not all at once, only one thing per day, if that often - maybe change things around every week) - armed services recruitment brochures. "Help wanted" ads in the local paper. "Holiday in a gypsy caravan" brochure. "Emigrate to Australia" brochure.</p><p></p><p>Or you could REALLY have fun and draft your own "help wanted" brochure allegedly from the local massage parlour. "Older women wanted for dominatrix role. Own whip preferred. Removable dentures pays a bonus. Earn extra $$$ in your spare time when the kids are at school. Discretion assured."</p><p></p><p>Then again, maybe just stop at wearing makeup and a little perfume each day.</p><p></p><p>You have just begun the turnaround process. Stay strong and find ways to have a little fun. it will help you stiffen your spine and not bite when she's goading you. Because you're quietly goading her at the same time!</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 200028, member: 1991"] Hey, Bran, well done! And y'know? You got the most important piece of information of all, out of that exchange. What she told you, loud and clear, is that she has been, and is trying now, to push your buttons as her primary aim. A lot of what you're worrying about MAY be happening but if it is, there's no way she would ever confide in you (few kids would) so there's really no point in asking. The best way to find out what is REALLY going on is NOT to ask questions,but to leave silences for her to talk into. THAT is when she is most likely to tongue-trip and tell you more than she intended. Meanwhile, remember the wonderful modern proverb about parents' revenge - live long enough to be a problem to your children! And you can start now. What do you think is gonigthrough HER head right now? Picture it. "My mom is being really weird, I don't know what's up. I said several times that I had business to attend to, I know she's always read that i the past as me doing drug deals - and all she said was, 'that's nice. Have a good day.' What is she up to?" So now, bran, if you want to have a little bit of fun, you can begin YOUR mind games. Don't just jump in, think about it carefully and be subtle. What particular conclusion would you like her to jump to? Or do you just want to keep her gently off balance without specifics? Things to do: Wear perfume and makeup around the house. Pay really careful attention to your appearance. Leave a travel brochure lying around but not too much out in the open. Maybe next to the phone, if you have to leave it in the open. Otherwise, have it half under a cushion on the couch. A real estate brochure next to the phone is a good one. Other things to leave next to the phone (not all at once, only one thing per day, if that often - maybe change things around every week) - armed services recruitment brochures. "Help wanted" ads in the local paper. "Holiday in a gypsy caravan" brochure. "Emigrate to Australia" brochure. Or you could REALLY have fun and draft your own "help wanted" brochure allegedly from the local massage parlour. "Older women wanted for dominatrix role. Own whip preferred. Removable dentures pays a bonus. Earn extra $$$ in your spare time when the kids are at school. Discretion assured." Then again, maybe just stop at wearing makeup and a little perfume each day. You have just begun the turnaround process. Stay strong and find ways to have a little fun. it will help you stiffen your spine and not bite when she's goading you. Because you're quietly goading her at the same time! Marg [/QUOTE]
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