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<blockquote data-quote="SeekingStrength" data-source="post: 649220" data-attributes="member: 17635"><p>Hugs, Tess.</p><p></p><p>I hope you stay close to the board with updates.</p><p></p><p>Your post hit me because husband and I discuss this every few weeks. Our 33yo difficult son and his girlfriend have been together several years. We half expect a similar email/text one of these days. We THINK we will not be drawn in because: a.) there is no relationship with Difficult Son and b.) we feel very confident he would end up using their child as a pawn with us. We have no grandchildren and do not want to get sucked into a situation that would cause immense pain. (We meet the grandbaby and then are refused contact unless we do this or that).</p><p></p><p>Easier said than done. A grandbaby?!?!?!</p><p></p><p>And, this is totally putting our experience onto your situation, which is not cool. Also, how many times have I heard to not...what is that term???....I can't remember...but it means imagining bad things that have not happened. husband and I are better about not doing that these days, but still not great at it. Wait, the term may be <em>awfulizing...</em>or something close to that.</p><p></p><p>With others, I hope and trust this works out well for everybody concerned. This is a major fear of mine and I am interested in what happens, while truly hoping the very best for you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SeekingStrength, post: 649220, member: 17635"] Hugs, Tess. I hope you stay close to the board with updates. Your post hit me because husband and I discuss this every few weeks. Our 33yo difficult son and his girlfriend have been together several years. We half expect a similar email/text one of these days. We THINK we will not be drawn in because: a.) there is no relationship with Difficult Son and b.) we feel very confident he would end up using their child as a pawn with us. We have no grandchildren and do not want to get sucked into a situation that would cause immense pain. (We meet the grandbaby and then are refused contact unless we do this or that). Easier said than done. A grandbaby?!?!?! And, this is totally putting our experience onto your situation, which is not cool. Also, how many times have I heard to not...what is that term???....I can't remember...but it means imagining bad things that have not happened. husband and I are better about not doing that these days, but still not great at it. Wait, the term may be [I]awfulizing...[/I]or something close to that. With others, I hope and trust this works out well for everybody concerned. This is a major fear of mine and I am interested in what happens, while truly hoping the very best for you. [/QUOTE]
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