Nopeacenohope
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so I stumbled across this site when I Googled giving up parental rights. I actually had searched before on FB for some support groups but no luck there. I'm in florida I just came back home from picking my son up at 3am. He's 15 and this all started around 13. Wow it feels like it's been longer than that. We moved to another town and my husband went to work out of state for a bit, so it was just me and my son. I have a daughter who is in her 20s and doing well. We have a very close supportive family and I'm not sure where I went wrong or what happend. My son staring hanging with so not so good kids got picked up for stealing a skateboard he admitted to it and was put in a diversion program. Well from there it progressed. I will say he's not to smart as he always gets caught. Smokes pot thinks it should be legal and wonders what's the big deal why does anyone care. Skipped classes grades went down. Got caught smoking pot at bus stop sent to diversion program again. Decided to send him to new school change the environment encouraged him to join swim team. Met simalar not so good kids at New school lied about swim team practice I caught him not going found vaping device and an unknown iPhone says he found them. Got caught at New school smoking pot now sent to alternative school (I called it jail school) now with all kids that have same issues. My phone would ring nonstop with school calls him being disrespectful. Defiant got in fight was pepper sprayed by SRO- I pulled him from school got him to counseling and started home schooling he had diversion 3 times so this time sent to court got lucky judge gave him another pass if he gets in no trouble for 8 months no record. So as of right now he is barely working on the online home school I took a new job to be home all the time. He's snuck out. Still getting high recently stole 600$ from his dad. He denied it but I found receipts for expensive clothes and more pot. I've begged and cried for the truth I've loved him so hard. He won't follow any house rules if I say he can't go out he leaves if I say hand over your phone he won't he's bigger than me and I'm not going to wrestle things away, he says life sucks and he hates himself he does not want to discuss what he does because he says he already hates himself and what he does. I talk to his therapist and let him no but I see no change. Here's the really sad part sometimes when we go visit my parents or his sister I see the little boy I remember. He's sweet kind and interacts with us. Helpful thankful. Then he's back to this defiant yelling cursing stealing pit smoking kid I don't know. I've been wondering if I should send him to an inpt treatment center or a military school somewhere he can get help. I have always tried to tell him that his family is his most important resource I mean he has me his dad my sister my brother his sister my parents all call him check on him worry over him. Alot of his friends don't have that, they come from really broken families. I guess you can't love them into good behavior and liking themselves. I somehow feel it's all my fault or I'm making it worse by not being tougher but I also want peace in my home. Sorry long post