Hi, I am a broken mom, my 16 year old daughter and I in the past month have been clashing terribly. This Dec we went away, she had her friends around the whole holiday with us, and proceeded to become too big for her boots. So we had a couple of arguments, the last on resulting her actually calling her friends father to come and fetch them. She went back home and stayed with her father.
My daughter and I has always been terribly close, just recently she has got new friends, and they have this new thing of constantly going out everywhere with these group of girls, getting the sloth like attitude at home and she loves telling me what she is going to do, not asking me.
Yesterday was the final blow out, I phoned her on my way home from work, and she had got a lift from school to see friends at the sports grounds, then she said she was going out to a party and sleeping out. I moaned at her for not telling me, she proceeded to tell me that she has asked her father. In discussion with her father, he recalls nothing (but he tends to half listen anyways). I called her back to tell her she was to come straight home from where she was, as she needs to ask and respect. This proceeded in a nasty row. She sent me texts to say she would not get in the car with me, she had contacted her father to collect her. Her father was in discussion with me, and supporting me. So I went to fetch her, which was terrible. She said she didnt want to see me ever again, she was leaving my house to live with her father. By now she also knows she has had all her privileges taken away, during our argument it went from 1 week to a month (her dad will stick to it). So I called her dad to fetch her.
The thing is, her dad and I have been divorced for 9 years, we really do work well together with our children, both very active parents. We live close by, and share alot with our children together, and always try and support each other. The children use my house as the centre point and I have an aupair who runs after them. Then in the evenings they either sleep at my exs house or mine.
I am one broken lady, I cannot stop crying, please tell me what I have done wrong
My daughter and I has always been terribly close, just recently she has got new friends, and they have this new thing of constantly going out everywhere with these group of girls, getting the sloth like attitude at home and she loves telling me what she is going to do, not asking me.
Yesterday was the final blow out, I phoned her on my way home from work, and she had got a lift from school to see friends at the sports grounds, then she said she was going out to a party and sleeping out. I moaned at her for not telling me, she proceeded to tell me that she has asked her father. In discussion with her father, he recalls nothing (but he tends to half listen anyways). I called her back to tell her she was to come straight home from where she was, as she needs to ask and respect. This proceeded in a nasty row. She sent me texts to say she would not get in the car with me, she had contacted her father to collect her. Her father was in discussion with me, and supporting me. So I went to fetch her, which was terrible. She said she didnt want to see me ever again, she was leaving my house to live with her father. By now she also knows she has had all her privileges taken away, during our argument it went from 1 week to a month (her dad will stick to it). So I called her dad to fetch her.
The thing is, her dad and I have been divorced for 9 years, we really do work well together with our children, both very active parents. We live close by, and share alot with our children together, and always try and support each other. The children use my house as the centre point and I have an aupair who runs after them. Then in the evenings they either sleep at my exs house or mine.
I am one broken lady, I cannot stop crying, please tell me what I have done wrong