I have learned alot from this group. One thing is that difficult child seems to feed off of my emotions, stress, voice level. Today she came out dressed in dirty clothes (normal for her...sigh). I instantly could smell urine. I wanted to rip her face off and ask what she peed on this time. I simply told her to go change, and turned around to finish breakfast. Her mouth started going in absolute protest, and I felt her eyes roll. A few min later went and asked her what she peed on her response was yell name calling slamming things, denial. I kept my voice lower, face open, and eyes from rolling. I said (very hard) I know we have accidents sometimes, just please (grit teeth) tell me where you peed in your room. She said she did not. Told her I could smell it strong on her. What happened. Finally she said it was on her shorts. Ok why...again denial after admitting it. Finally said it was from the water park on Sat, she "accidently" peed. ok.....but you were in the water. I said (AHHHHH) was it an accident, you are not in trouble I just want the truth? She said she did not know where the bathroom was (true) and just went in her pants. She then cried. Was not sure what to do about that, so I left the room. May not have been perfect, but better than most moments. I did just get done with a long run, so my anger was at a minimum.