New Leaf
Well-Known Member
I was at sons paddling practice yesterday when who should I see out of the corner of my eye.......Rain. I haven't seen her in months and I expect that it was not happenstance. For her lifestyle, homeless and Lord knows whatever comes with that, she looks okay, clean, her complexion is clear. She is not the picture of what my catastrophic mind sees, unkempt, greasy and mumbling to herself.
Thank God.
I started to tell her of my woes with Tornado. She said "It is not her fault, the guy who gave her the moped didn't tell her it was stolen." I replied "How do people on the streets just come across "free" mopeds????" She said "They are all over the place, people take them apart and fix them up."
Oh, hello, chop shop moped= many stolen mopeds.
She went on to say that Tornado is probably looking at 1-5 years, and it may be a good thing for her, to get cleaned up.
SHOCKER MUCH?
Rain said that she is tired of listening to Tornado whine about her life, that she had it good and makes things up to excuse her way of living. She was "fed up with her attitude and "batting her eyes" to get her way", that Tornado was expecting "her to take on her three kids." She said she told her they were HER kids. I said "Why doesn't she just turn over custody to their grandparents?" , which surprised Rain because she thought she did. She looked down and said "It's the money." Meaning the EBT, Tornado fraudulently gets for her kids, that is a whole nother story...........and a felony, besides. If their grandfather decides to turn her in, she is in much bigger trouble.
I told Rain about Tornados call to the kids, how she just promised to "Buy them things when she gets out."
My poor grands. I told her their reaction as we spoke of the call, they both said "Tutu, my heart hurts."
Rain looked down and shook her head. She looked at me with teary eyes and said she had to go.
I told her that I hoped she understood that I was not bailing Tornado out, and I would not sponsor her.
She said that she understood, that Tornado would probably skip out on court and then I would "owe all that money."
Then she rode her bike off to wherever she was going.
Sigh.
Rain also mentioned that Tornado "snuck out a letter to her through a released inmate", which she said is a big violation of rules.
Tornado is stretching jail rules already.
Not smart.
God speaks in mysterious ways.
I see a little change in Rain, a softening.
I am grateful that she sought me out, to let me know that I am doing the right thing by not bailing her sister out.
It is interesting, that even she could not handle her sister, being at the same park with her. I am hoping this will help Rain see the road she may be heading down, if she continues to use meth. She is disgusted that her sister has abandoned her children, and uses the funds meant for them to support her selfish drugging lifestyle.
My dear friends, I am so thankful for your help and guidance through this new chapter.
It is a hard thing to have two adult children on the streets, well one now, and one in jail. I have often thought that jail would be a good thing, a forced detox, but when faced with it, it is another battle within.... between my soft mushy "rescue mode" (which is not a rescue at all) to my steady state stoic voice of reason.
I am trying to take the emotions out of it.
Reminding myself that Tornado is a master manipulator and I have to keep my guard up.
Fool me once............
The saga continues.
This is HER saga, and I am but an observer.
It is up to her, what she will do.
Somewhere in there buried deep, is the Tornado I once knew.
I hope she wakes up through all of this.
Only time will tell, and she is going to have plenty of that, if she is found guilty.
I am more and more on the thought train that Tornado is right where she needs to be.
(((HUGS)))
Leafy
Thank God.
I started to tell her of my woes with Tornado. She said "It is not her fault, the guy who gave her the moped didn't tell her it was stolen." I replied "How do people on the streets just come across "free" mopeds????" She said "They are all over the place, people take them apart and fix them up."
Oh, hello, chop shop moped= many stolen mopeds.
She went on to say that Tornado is probably looking at 1-5 years, and it may be a good thing for her, to get cleaned up.
SHOCKER MUCH?
Rain said that she is tired of listening to Tornado whine about her life, that she had it good and makes things up to excuse her way of living. She was "fed up with her attitude and "batting her eyes" to get her way", that Tornado was expecting "her to take on her three kids." She said she told her they were HER kids. I said "Why doesn't she just turn over custody to their grandparents?" , which surprised Rain because she thought she did. She looked down and said "It's the money." Meaning the EBT, Tornado fraudulently gets for her kids, that is a whole nother story...........and a felony, besides. If their grandfather decides to turn her in, she is in much bigger trouble.
I told Rain about Tornados call to the kids, how she just promised to "Buy them things when she gets out."
My poor grands. I told her their reaction as we spoke of the call, they both said "Tutu, my heart hurts."
Rain looked down and shook her head. She looked at me with teary eyes and said she had to go.
I told her that I hoped she understood that I was not bailing Tornado out, and I would not sponsor her.
She said that she understood, that Tornado would probably skip out on court and then I would "owe all that money."
Then she rode her bike off to wherever she was going.
Sigh.
Rain also mentioned that Tornado "snuck out a letter to her through a released inmate", which she said is a big violation of rules.
Tornado is stretching jail rules already.
Not smart.
God speaks in mysterious ways.
I see a little change in Rain, a softening.
I am grateful that she sought me out, to let me know that I am doing the right thing by not bailing her sister out.
It is interesting, that even she could not handle her sister, being at the same park with her. I am hoping this will help Rain see the road she may be heading down, if she continues to use meth. She is disgusted that her sister has abandoned her children, and uses the funds meant for them to support her selfish drugging lifestyle.
My dear friends, I am so thankful for your help and guidance through this new chapter.
It is a hard thing to have two adult children on the streets, well one now, and one in jail. I have often thought that jail would be a good thing, a forced detox, but when faced with it, it is another battle within.... between my soft mushy "rescue mode" (which is not a rescue at all) to my steady state stoic voice of reason.
I am trying to take the emotions out of it.
Reminding myself that Tornado is a master manipulator and I have to keep my guard up.
Fool me once............
The saga continues.
This is HER saga, and I am but an observer.
It is up to her, what she will do.
Somewhere in there buried deep, is the Tornado I once knew.
I hope she wakes up through all of this.
Only time will tell, and she is going to have plenty of that, if she is found guilty.
I am more and more on the thought train that Tornado is right where she needs to be.
(((HUGS)))
Leafy