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Bunny
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When difficult child got home from school onm Friday I asked if he had any homework over the weekend and he said that he had homeowrk in every subject. On Saturday afternoon he was whining that he was bored and that there was nothing for him to do because husband and easy child were ay my in-laws house helping them with their computer and I think that difficult child was annoyed that easy child was not here for him to boss around, er... I mean... play with. I suggested that he start his homework because he told me that there was alot to do. He said that he would do it all on Sunday. I reminded him that he was going to a friend's birthday party on Sunday afternoon and that maybe he could start it now so he didn't have so much to finish on Sunday. No. He said that he would do it Sunday. Fine. I dropped the subject and played a game with him to aleviate his boredom.
Sunday come around. I ask difficult child if he is going to start his homework before going to the birthday party. No, he says. He'll do it when he comes home. I reminded him that the party wasn't ending until 5:00 pm and then he had to have dinner. Not to worry, he sayd. He'll do it. Again I dropped the subject.
We eat dinner and I was going to help easy child with his bath (by now it's a little after 6:00 pm) and all of a sudden difficult child is throwing this fit in his room. I go in to see what was upsetting him. Can anyone guess what the problem was? If you guessed HOMEWORK you win the prize!! He's rolling around on his floor, complaining that he has too much homework to do and it's not fair and I should just let him stay home from school tomorrow so that he doesn't have to do it all now. I quietly reminded him that I had been prodding him all weekend to start his homework so that he was not overwhelmed with it on Sunday night because there was alot of it and that he kept telling me that he would be able to get it done and not to worry about it. I told him that he was going to school on the morning, whether he chose to complete his homework or not. Then he told me that I should "help" him by doing the homework for him. Like that is ever going to happen in this lifetime.
This goes on for an hour and husband is starting to lose his patience. I pull him aside and tell him that I'm going to give difficult child one more reminder to do his homework and that he will have to go to school whether the work is done or not, and that if he chooses not to do it then he will be the one to have to explain to the teachers why it was not completed. He's a teacher pleaser and for him to have to explain to his teachers that he chose not to do his homework would be the worst punishment in the world. I told husband to back off and let's see what happens. He agreed. I gave difficult child his last warning and husband put easy child bed.
Sure enough, difficult child came downstairs and did half the homework and said that he would get up early on Monday morning and finish the rest, which he did.
While I'm glad that it didn't turn into difficult child screaming for hours about he was overhwlemed with his homework and that if I did it for him he would not be so overwhelmed, I still get annoyed that it has to become this power play. He knows that he has to do the work. He knows that I'm not going to do it for him. He knows that he has to go to school. But still, he has to try to see if I will let him get away with it.
Pam
Sunday come around. I ask difficult child if he is going to start his homework before going to the birthday party. No, he says. He'll do it when he comes home. I reminded him that the party wasn't ending until 5:00 pm and then he had to have dinner. Not to worry, he sayd. He'll do it. Again I dropped the subject.
We eat dinner and I was going to help easy child with his bath (by now it's a little after 6:00 pm) and all of a sudden difficult child is throwing this fit in his room. I go in to see what was upsetting him. Can anyone guess what the problem was? If you guessed HOMEWORK you win the prize!! He's rolling around on his floor, complaining that he has too much homework to do and it's not fair and I should just let him stay home from school tomorrow so that he doesn't have to do it all now. I quietly reminded him that I had been prodding him all weekend to start his homework so that he was not overwhelmed with it on Sunday night because there was alot of it and that he kept telling me that he would be able to get it done and not to worry about it. I told him that he was going to school on the morning, whether he chose to complete his homework or not. Then he told me that I should "help" him by doing the homework for him. Like that is ever going to happen in this lifetime.
This goes on for an hour and husband is starting to lose his patience. I pull him aside and tell him that I'm going to give difficult child one more reminder to do his homework and that he will have to go to school whether the work is done or not, and that if he chooses not to do it then he will be the one to have to explain to the teachers why it was not completed. He's a teacher pleaser and for him to have to explain to his teachers that he chose not to do his homework would be the worst punishment in the world. I told husband to back off and let's see what happens. He agreed. I gave difficult child his last warning and husband put easy child bed.
Sure enough, difficult child came downstairs and did half the homework and said that he would get up early on Monday morning and finish the rest, which he did.
While I'm glad that it didn't turn into difficult child screaming for hours about he was overhwlemed with his homework and that if I did it for him he would not be so overwhelmed, I still get annoyed that it has to become this power play. He knows that he has to do the work. He knows that I'm not going to do it for him. He knows that he has to go to school. But still, he has to try to see if I will let him get away with it.
Pam