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Angie83
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Well, first of all, hi to everyone, I´m new here and I´m so glad to have found this amazing page, hopefully someone will read this and give me some advice.
I have an amazing and loving six year old. He was diagnosed with ADHD on february last year, before his diagnosis we had several problems at his former school prior to his diagnosis. His teachers and the school psychologist would not know how to treat him or help him, I asked the teacher and the school psychologist if it could be ADHD and they would say it wasn´t. That since he was so smart he was defying them, I believed them, because that was their area of expertise, but my son began having nightmares about his teacher, he would cry while he was sleeping and I later found out that the teacher would grab him by the arm and pull him or leave him outside the classroom for the whole day.
When I found out I took him out of that private school into another that has been great to us. Since then my he has been diagnosed with ADHD and has improved so much because we finally understand and are able to help him the way he needs. Anyway, a group of moms and I took our kids (all boys) out of that school because they all had problems with the teacher and principal and they began at this new school together. We used to be all friends and took all the kids out to parties and weekends, my son improved so much at this new school that he became a new kid, full of life, joy, and with the biggest heart you´ve ever seen, then one of the mothers began having problems with her marriage and one of the kids, who is in the same school and class as my kid, began having issues, but the problem was and still is that he would take them out on my son.
He continuosly calls him names, and hides his school material and books, and then lies about or mocks him. So his mom and have gotten into small fights due to it, because she says it´s the way kids act, and I know kids fight and then makeup 5 minutes later, but we´ve had this oingoing problem for almost a year, and that kid is getting worse, last week my kid had an accident because they were cleaning the bathrooms and he couldn´t hold it anymore, so he urinated himself and when the teacher took him to the teachers lounge to get him cleaned, this kid took my kids plastic school bag and rolled it over the urine and did not tell my kid about until a few days later, saying you should smell you bag, I put over your pee.
I got so mad, but still didn´t say anything. The last week that kid threw dirt to my kid and he responded to the agression and beat him up, and we were actually outside the school when this happened and I went in to talk to my kid, but she just stood outside the school chatting with another mom and the other teacher claiming that her son wasn´t the problem, that it was my fault because I didn´t understand that it was kid stuff. I´m sorry I just don´t see how bullying is normal, is it frequent? yes, but it does not mean it is okay to do it or approve it.
My kid likes that boy he says it´s his friend but I tell him that friends do not hit you, mock you, or soil your property, I told him I would no longer hang with that kids mom and that it was his desicion if he wanted to stop being friends with that boy, and that I would really like it if he would choose that. We have overcome so many things at schools, with ADHD, and I don´t want another kid messing with mine, specially when I know the mother does nothing to stop this behavior, she even bought him icecreaming the day of the fight, and my kid isnpt the only one he´s abusive too, he´s abusive to all his classmates but he likes picking on my son the best, please any advice? Am I wrong? I would really apreciate any input, thank you so much!
I have an amazing and loving six year old. He was diagnosed with ADHD on february last year, before his diagnosis we had several problems at his former school prior to his diagnosis. His teachers and the school psychologist would not know how to treat him or help him, I asked the teacher and the school psychologist if it could be ADHD and they would say it wasn´t. That since he was so smart he was defying them, I believed them, because that was their area of expertise, but my son began having nightmares about his teacher, he would cry while he was sleeping and I later found out that the teacher would grab him by the arm and pull him or leave him outside the classroom for the whole day.
When I found out I took him out of that private school into another that has been great to us. Since then my he has been diagnosed with ADHD and has improved so much because we finally understand and are able to help him the way he needs. Anyway, a group of moms and I took our kids (all boys) out of that school because they all had problems with the teacher and principal and they began at this new school together. We used to be all friends and took all the kids out to parties and weekends, my son improved so much at this new school that he became a new kid, full of life, joy, and with the biggest heart you´ve ever seen, then one of the mothers began having problems with her marriage and one of the kids, who is in the same school and class as my kid, began having issues, but the problem was and still is that he would take them out on my son.
He continuosly calls him names, and hides his school material and books, and then lies about or mocks him. So his mom and have gotten into small fights due to it, because she says it´s the way kids act, and I know kids fight and then makeup 5 minutes later, but we´ve had this oingoing problem for almost a year, and that kid is getting worse, last week my kid had an accident because they were cleaning the bathrooms and he couldn´t hold it anymore, so he urinated himself and when the teacher took him to the teachers lounge to get him cleaned, this kid took my kids plastic school bag and rolled it over the urine and did not tell my kid about until a few days later, saying you should smell you bag, I put over your pee.
I got so mad, but still didn´t say anything. The last week that kid threw dirt to my kid and he responded to the agression and beat him up, and we were actually outside the school when this happened and I went in to talk to my kid, but she just stood outside the school chatting with another mom and the other teacher claiming that her son wasn´t the problem, that it was my fault because I didn´t understand that it was kid stuff. I´m sorry I just don´t see how bullying is normal, is it frequent? yes, but it does not mean it is okay to do it or approve it.
My kid likes that boy he says it´s his friend but I tell him that friends do not hit you, mock you, or soil your property, I told him I would no longer hang with that kids mom and that it was his desicion if he wanted to stop being friends with that boy, and that I would really like it if he would choose that. We have overcome so many things at schools, with ADHD, and I don´t want another kid messing with mine, specially when I know the mother does nothing to stop this behavior, she even bought him icecreaming the day of the fight, and my kid isnpt the only one he´s abusive too, he´s abusive to all his classmates but he likes picking on my son the best, please any advice? Am I wrong? I would really apreciate any input, thank you so much!
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