It was a good day, much different than last week. Since last Sunday she has moved into the extended care wing and got to go to the beach Thursday and an outside AA meeting. Her counselor reports she has not had any issues with her this week. difficult child said she spent a good deal of time by herself thinking about her life. She will be doing step 4 of AA this week and has to dump all the garbage from her life.
Yesterday her friend from home came to visit and brought her letters of support that she had had her friends from the hs flag team write. The letters were awesome, so sincere and supportive. She taped them all to the wall in her room. She also had her friend cut her hair in a cut short layered look and said she is making major changes in her life both inside and out.
Her demeanor and atitude is better than I have ever seen. In group today she said she is so grateful we have stuck behind her and realizes for the first time in her life that we are really neat people. She said she called this guy she had been talking to from rehab that tried to take her out and told him she wanted to concentrate on her rehab and didn't want a boyfriend. If that's true it's huge, she has never dumped a guy who showed her attention.
She is allowed to have her cell now that she is in extended care but I talked to her counselor and sd I was worried about her being obsessive with it. She agreed and sd I should tell her I forgot it, which I did. To my surprise she didn't complain at all, just asked if I would consider bringing it next week.
We told her it would take a long time to be able to trust her and she said she knew that and was willing to wait. It was a very good day, we saw more progress in this past week than in the last month. She gets a 4 hour pass this week so we can take her shopping and dinner.
I love this program. We have watched other families go through the same thing we have and recovery is a wonderful thing to watch. This is a gift she has been given, we have all been given. She has a lot of work to do yet and it will be a lifelong commitment, but I am so grateful for this chance.
Nancy
Yesterday her friend from home came to visit and brought her letters of support that she had had her friends from the hs flag team write. The letters were awesome, so sincere and supportive. She taped them all to the wall in her room. She also had her friend cut her hair in a cut short layered look and said she is making major changes in her life both inside and out.
Her demeanor and atitude is better than I have ever seen. In group today she said she is so grateful we have stuck behind her and realizes for the first time in her life that we are really neat people. She said she called this guy she had been talking to from rehab that tried to take her out and told him she wanted to concentrate on her rehab and didn't want a boyfriend. If that's true it's huge, she has never dumped a guy who showed her attention.
She is allowed to have her cell now that she is in extended care but I talked to her counselor and sd I was worried about her being obsessive with it. She agreed and sd I should tell her I forgot it, which I did. To my surprise she didn't complain at all, just asked if I would consider bringing it next week.
We told her it would take a long time to be able to trust her and she said she knew that and was willing to wait. It was a very good day, we saw more progress in this past week than in the last month. She gets a 4 hour pass this week so we can take her shopping and dinner.
I love this program. We have watched other families go through the same thing we have and recovery is a wonderful thing to watch. This is a gift she has been given, we have all been given. She has a lot of work to do yet and it will be a lifelong commitment, but I am so grateful for this chance.
Nancy