tiredmommy
Well-Known Member
So I found out another reason why Duckie was so difficult last weekend. I already knew she was overtired from a sleep over on Friday night and her peak flow numbers were a little down on Saturday night. Couple that with a demanding morning and we have a recipe for a meltdown/rage.
But there's more. There were a few incidents at the party. Her frenemy "A" was also a guest. "A" got upset several times, saying the other girls were being mean to her. She kept tattling to her mother, who would jump in and rescue "A". Some examples of the issues included getting upset when the other girls asked "A" to play but it wasn't the game she wanted and having to knock on the bedroom door to be let in when the girls were upstairs. The mom feels they were excluding her... and I'm sure they were by the end of the party because they were tired of "A" and her nonsense by that point. It turns out the other mom told the girls (including Duckie) that they were mean and bullies to treat "A" so badly.
I'm livid.
It's "kids being kids" if her daughter gets a group of kids to taunt Duckie with "We hate you..." but it's bullying if her daughter doesn't get to choose what game the group plays. Duckie told me that she was hurt that the mom thought she was being a bully when "A" was just stirring up trouble. And you guys know me... I'm very cautious to ensure that Duckie is not able to get away with being mean. But... she is allowed to have an opinion and allowed to choose what she would like to do as long as she's she not being mean or disrespectful about it. I truly believe that "A" was purposefully trying to cause trouble because she wants one girl in the group to be her friend only.
I truly think our friendship is over.
But there's more. There were a few incidents at the party. Her frenemy "A" was also a guest. "A" got upset several times, saying the other girls were being mean to her. She kept tattling to her mother, who would jump in and rescue "A". Some examples of the issues included getting upset when the other girls asked "A" to play but it wasn't the game she wanted and having to knock on the bedroom door to be let in when the girls were upstairs. The mom feels they were excluding her... and I'm sure they were by the end of the party because they were tired of "A" and her nonsense by that point. It turns out the other mom told the girls (including Duckie) that they were mean and bullies to treat "A" so badly.
I'm livid.
It's "kids being kids" if her daughter gets a group of kids to taunt Duckie with "We hate you..." but it's bullying if her daughter doesn't get to choose what game the group plays. Duckie told me that she was hurt that the mom thought she was being a bully when "A" was just stirring up trouble. And you guys know me... I'm very cautious to ensure that Duckie is not able to get away with being mean. But... she is allowed to have an opinion and allowed to choose what she would like to do as long as she's she not being mean or disrespectful about it. I truly believe that "A" was purposefully trying to cause trouble because she wants one girl in the group to be her friend only.
I truly think our friendship is over.