HereWeGoAgain
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Hey friends, I've been off the forum for almost a year but dropped back in to tell about our difficult child's latest crash.
My last update. almost a year ago, was very upbeat
After that good report, difficult child maintained for several months.
Then, aided by wife and I strapping on mega-sized blinders and doing some world-class enabling, she began a long slide back into heavy partying and eventually addiction to pain pills and meth.
By November she moved out but then in December we once again let her move back on her latest promises to get help and stay clean.
A week before Christmas she took our car to go pay a visit to her grandfather. She then called wife saying that she had stopped on the way at a casino to play the slots. wife told her to come home immediately, but she did not and was not heard from for the next six days. wife reported her to the police for unauthorized use of the car (not theft, since she lived at our house and wife gave her the keys). The day after Christmas, difficult child called a friend from a convenience store. The friend called wife, wife called the police, and then she and easy child son went to the store. difficult child was severely strung out and had lost the car, did not know where she last had seen it or who she had been with. After speaking to wife, difficult child and easy child son, the officers asked if wife wanted to press charges about the car, and she said yes. They told her the case would be referred to the detective division and they would decide whether to proceed, in which case difficult child would be arrested and jailed (the detective division later declined to pursue the case). difficult child was taken to a behavioral health center run by the city. She spent the next week in the center's Secured Crisis unit, a sort of lockup for people undergoing psychiatric crises. During the stay wife informed her that she could not return to our house. difficult child called my parents to request a place to live while looking for a rehab. They said yes, on condition of her signing a "contract" detailing strict expectations, including that if she left without permission, she could not come back again.
One night after about a month, they dropped difficult child off at an AA meeting, after which she was going to socialize with some of the members and then call to be picked up, using a cell phone they lent her for the purpose - this was to show that she had earned back a little trust by having stuck to the contract. Turns out that little bit of trust was misplaced. She did not call and did not answer calls to the phone.
For the next few weeks she stayed with a series of acquaintances. She met my parents a few times, to get her clothes and medications, and a couple of times she talked them out of a little money and once they bought her some clothes, before they got wise. At one point she wanted to move back in with them but they refused.
Earlier this month she called them again, saying that she wanted to get into a church-run six month residential rehab program. They agreed to sponsor her there if she could get in, and drove her out to tour the place and turn in an application. Part of the process is an interview - difficult child never did follow up on scheduling the interview.
So as of now, we have no idea where difficult child is staying. It seems that she has burned the last bridge and will finally have to shift for herself.
My last update. almost a year ago, was very upbeat
After that good report, difficult child maintained for several months.
Then, aided by wife and I strapping on mega-sized blinders and doing some world-class enabling, she began a long slide back into heavy partying and eventually addiction to pain pills and meth.
By November she moved out but then in December we once again let her move back on her latest promises to get help and stay clean.
A week before Christmas she took our car to go pay a visit to her grandfather. She then called wife saying that she had stopped on the way at a casino to play the slots. wife told her to come home immediately, but she did not and was not heard from for the next six days. wife reported her to the police for unauthorized use of the car (not theft, since she lived at our house and wife gave her the keys). The day after Christmas, difficult child called a friend from a convenience store. The friend called wife, wife called the police, and then she and easy child son went to the store. difficult child was severely strung out and had lost the car, did not know where she last had seen it or who she had been with. After speaking to wife, difficult child and easy child son, the officers asked if wife wanted to press charges about the car, and she said yes. They told her the case would be referred to the detective division and they would decide whether to proceed, in which case difficult child would be arrested and jailed (the detective division later declined to pursue the case). difficult child was taken to a behavioral health center run by the city. She spent the next week in the center's Secured Crisis unit, a sort of lockup for people undergoing psychiatric crises. During the stay wife informed her that she could not return to our house. difficult child called my parents to request a place to live while looking for a rehab. They said yes, on condition of her signing a "contract" detailing strict expectations, including that if she left without permission, she could not come back again.
One night after about a month, they dropped difficult child off at an AA meeting, after which she was going to socialize with some of the members and then call to be picked up, using a cell phone they lent her for the purpose - this was to show that she had earned back a little trust by having stuck to the contract. Turns out that little bit of trust was misplaced. She did not call and did not answer calls to the phone.
For the next few weeks she stayed with a series of acquaintances. She met my parents a few times, to get her clothes and medications, and a couple of times she talked them out of a little money and once they bought her some clothes, before they got wise. At one point she wanted to move back in with them but they refused.
Earlier this month she called them again, saying that she wanted to get into a church-run six month residential rehab program. They agreed to sponsor her there if she could get in, and drove her out to tour the place and turn in an application. Part of the process is an interview - difficult child never did follow up on scheduling the interview.
So as of now, we have no idea where difficult child is staying. It seems that she has burned the last bridge and will finally have to shift for herself.
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