Sportsfan isn't perfect, but he's calming down and is determined to make a good home for his child, my grandson. I'm very grateful he is stepping up to the plate. His soon-to-be-ex is so ditzy that she is giving him almost EVERYTHING just to get out of the marriage quickly. My son is able to keep the house that Grandson grew up in and, at least when Grandson is with Sportsfan, which will be 50% of the time, his home life will be stable and unchanged from what he was used to. I'm worried about how Grandson is being treated by soon-to-be-ex, who I will just refer to as X. The divorce should be final at the end of July. She got a very tiny apartment because her credit is terrible and she couldn't get a better place. Grandson, who I will call Little S. is a lot like my son. My son is high anxiety and so is Little S. He is high maintenance and does best with routine, structure, a good sleep schedule, and calmness. X has been going out all night, stumbling home early in the morning, yelling at Sportsfan and Little S. When she takes Little S. out it is to see her group of friends that she parties with. Although there is no divorce yet, Little S. has already met her new boyfriend and she keeps him out until 10 or later at night so he is crabby the next day and overstimulated. There is nothing SportsFan, me or anyone can do about it and nothing Judge will do about it. My son has a great lawyer, and even he said X's behavior, unless illegal, is not factored into anything. I am really afraid of what Little S's life will be like when X has him. She is very impulsive, lives in the moment, is irresponsible and flighty. I have never seen or heard about her hitting Little S., but she gets very harsh with him and he cries and she just yells more so he cries more. I really don't understand how parents can get divorced and then get so involved with their new honeys that they put their kids behind them, which is what she is doing. She seems to have no understanding how hard it is going to be for Little S. Or she doesn't care. To date, she has refused to sit down with Sportsfan to even tell Little S. that he is going to be moving out with her. Little S. is going to go ballistic and be terrified. And she'll probably yell at him for it. In case my post was unclear, although X has her apartment ready to move into, she hasn't packed and left yet. That will happen this weekend. There are so many parents that I just don't understand. It makes me really sad.