Today was a rough day for my family. I had court first thing this morning to defend the full-custody rights I have for my two children, and when I walk out of the court room (successful) my husband is sitting on the bench waiting for me....with his son, 12, next to him. Turns out when he told us he was at his PARENT-APPROVED friend's house the day before, he was not. He was hanging out with a boy we had SPECIFICALLY forbade him to see EVER. This boy sold him a bag of marijuana, and what does he do with it? BRINGS IT TO SCHOOL! He got arrested, and suspended from school for 5 days. Now we have to go get him fingerprinted, and his mugshot taken, and he has to go to court. OMG. I think the worst part of all this is I blame his mother. She is a substance abuser who spent 2 years in jail after dropping the boys off on her parents' doorstep (literally). Then she got out of jail this past fall and promptly relapsed, violated probation, and jumped bail. Now she is on the run with a warrant out for her arrest. With a mother like this - OF COURSE HER SON IS ******! What is the message this woman is sending to her boys after two YEARS of saying, "I'm going to change for you"? Well, from here it sounds a whole lot like, "You aren't worth changing for". So I can only IMAGINE what it sounds like from my stepson's point of view!!!! *husband and I have been sporadically looking into therapy centers and such for him, but now I think we have no choice but to make a firm decision on one in order to get help for him. He resists all counseling attempts, lies, steals, is deeply disrespectful to his father, and gets deplorable grades (he is looking at staying back in 6th grade this year). He is going to be 13 in July, and it is more like dealing with a 5 year old, than anything. We need to nip this B**S** in the bud before it spirals out of control. husband and I both come from long lines of subtance abuse and we have VOWED this will not happen to any of our kids!