ana97abby03
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If you read all this thank you. I have three daughters aged 13, 7, and 5. My 13yr old was diagnosed with ADHD at age 3 1/2. I had some very dark days with her up until about first grade. Since then, other than a few bumps when she needed medication dose adjustments, she has done very well taking Adder XR 40mg now. She has friends and makes good grades. I worry about the future and what will happen into adulthood. When she misses a dose, she is almost manic to watch. Yells and screams, and is unable to complete any task. WHen she was little the pediatrician would not help me. I finally paid out of pocket to take her to a psychiatrist and thankfully that doctor started her on half a ritalin.
My 7 old is in 2nd grade. She has a wonderful disposition and doesn't have behavior issues, but she can barely read. They are giving her "extra help" and she is making some progress. I have been in a battle with the school since k-5 to try and get her an IEP. I have a meeting with the school on Tuesday. I am going to be so upset if they don't do something. I know they will have to test her again if I ask, but they are literally hateful to me and imply that I shouldn't want to label my child Special Education. I just want her to be able to read. I don't know if this is dyslexia or what.
Now for my most acute problem. My 5yr old is totally out of control. I think I attributed her actions to that of a normal active 3yr old because I wanted so badly to have a "normal child." Now at 5 and with things getting worse everyday, I can't ignore it any more. Even as a 2yr old she would bite and scratch herself when very upset. That is less now. She yells, hits her sister, doesn't listen to me at all, and honestly does the exact opposite of what I tell her. I can't take her places often times. She is getting in trouble some at school for talking out, putting her hands on people, and being mean, but its not all the time. SHe has a male teacher and responds better to men, so maybe that it is better at school. I am starting to feel the way I felt when my oldest was like this. I want to die or for her to just leave our home. My mother kept her for a month in the summer, and it was the first time I was happy in a long time. I HATE these feelings. The thing that is confusing me is that when she is alone with me or when she is with her Father, she doesn't act out nearly as much. Thats why I wondered if it is really ADHD or ODD. Are some kids better like this in certain situations? All I know is that today she has screamed and fought all day. I can't take it anymore. I don't think her doctor is going to help me unless the school backs me up that she has issues there too. She also traps our dog and makes him yelp.
Thanks for any help
My 7 old is in 2nd grade. She has a wonderful disposition and doesn't have behavior issues, but she can barely read. They are giving her "extra help" and she is making some progress. I have been in a battle with the school since k-5 to try and get her an IEP. I have a meeting with the school on Tuesday. I am going to be so upset if they don't do something. I know they will have to test her again if I ask, but they are literally hateful to me and imply that I shouldn't want to label my child Special Education. I just want her to be able to read. I don't know if this is dyslexia or what.
Now for my most acute problem. My 5yr old is totally out of control. I think I attributed her actions to that of a normal active 3yr old because I wanted so badly to have a "normal child." Now at 5 and with things getting worse everyday, I can't ignore it any more. Even as a 2yr old she would bite and scratch herself when very upset. That is less now. She yells, hits her sister, doesn't listen to me at all, and honestly does the exact opposite of what I tell her. I can't take her places often times. She is getting in trouble some at school for talking out, putting her hands on people, and being mean, but its not all the time. SHe has a male teacher and responds better to men, so maybe that it is better at school. I am starting to feel the way I felt when my oldest was like this. I want to die or for her to just leave our home. My mother kept her for a month in the summer, and it was the first time I was happy in a long time. I HATE these feelings. The thing that is confusing me is that when she is alone with me or when she is with her Father, she doesn't act out nearly as much. Thats why I wondered if it is really ADHD or ODD. Are some kids better like this in certain situations? All I know is that today she has screamed and fought all day. I can't take it anymore. I don't think her doctor is going to help me unless the school backs me up that she has issues there too. She also traps our dog and makes him yelp.
Thanks for any help
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