TerryJ2
Well-Known Member
We went to the child psychiatric the other day. There are so many things we have tried to do, but for some reason when the Dr. says it, difficult child listens--an authority figure from outside the home and all that.
He is supposed to get himself up on the a.m. with-his own alarm clock, and only 2 nice, happy voice reminders. After that, if he sleeps in, he misses school and stays home with-no TV, no video games. If he missed 20 days (unexcused), school rules are that he is held back a grade.
It's all about natural consequences.
We also suggested that difficult child put himself to bed with-o our nagging, and he didn't like that. I found it interesting and amusing, since he absolutely does NOT like to go to bed, and will play for hrs, read, do anything to prolong having to go to bed. I thought the nagging irritating him but he said he didn't mind it.
I think he just doesn't want to be alone. Also, I think he equated it with-losing his backrub (I often give him a backrub to get him to settle down).
So, last night I reminded him that he was going to get himself up in the a.m., and he balked.
"No! You have to help me. You know how important it is that I go to school. I can't be held back again; I was held back already last yr!"
Wow.
He jumped from 1 or 2 days of oversleeping, to 20 days, and being held back!
It's kind of funny, and very sweet. I told him he would still work toward that goal but we'd work on it together. He seemed happy with-that.
He got up this a.m. with-only one reminder.
Whew!
He is supposed to get himself up on the a.m. with-his own alarm clock, and only 2 nice, happy voice reminders. After that, if he sleeps in, he misses school and stays home with-no TV, no video games. If he missed 20 days (unexcused), school rules are that he is held back a grade.
It's all about natural consequences.
We also suggested that difficult child put himself to bed with-o our nagging, and he didn't like that. I found it interesting and amusing, since he absolutely does NOT like to go to bed, and will play for hrs, read, do anything to prolong having to go to bed. I thought the nagging irritating him but he said he didn't mind it.
I think he just doesn't want to be alone. Also, I think he equated it with-losing his backrub (I often give him a backrub to get him to settle down).
So, last night I reminded him that he was going to get himself up in the a.m., and he balked.
"No! You have to help me. You know how important it is that I go to school. I can't be held back again; I was held back already last yr!"
Wow.
He jumped from 1 or 2 days of oversleeping, to 20 days, and being held back!
It's kind of funny, and very sweet. I told him he would still work toward that goal but we'd work on it together. He seemed happy with-that.
He got up this a.m. with-only one reminder.
Whew!