Hi everybody just thought i would try to get some help here. My fiance and i have been visiting your website for a couple of months now but have never posted until now. Well she has two difficult child boys difficult child 1 11 and difficult child 2 12 (they have been in my life for about three and a half years, oldest knows his father meet him a couple of times in his life and younger has no idea who his father is both men dont acknowledge their sons exist) both currently diagnosed adhd, odd, impulse disorder not specified and the younger is being treated for bi-polar and depressing but psychiatrist reluctant to label it as such. also at various stages since they where young been diagnosed suicidal, depression, ptsd and taken every medicine under the sun. oldest has been hospitalized at least 8 times and younger on so far 5 times both inpatient and outpatient facilities. Oldest has threatened to kill everyone while they sleep and was actually caught twice with knives on top of mom and young brother(separate occasions lead to hospitalization). Currently youngest is in special school/outpatient facility and older has started mainstream classes as he was in Behavior /special education classes for most of his life. Older difficult child is currently on abilify 10mg once a day and clonidine .1 mg every night. Both have trouble from time to time it goes in waves but currently we are on the top of the wave with our oldest. For the past month and a half since he has been in regular classes, we have had trouble with him almost on a daily basis. he has managed to get suspended from classe 2 time once for 2 days and the other for 4 days all becuase of fights, and at home of course he has a really bad attitude towards everything and everyone, so today was his appointment with psychiatrist and I cant believe what im hearing he took him off his medication and went so far as to tell him that he no longer needed to take them. I dont know what to say or do and neither does mom. we objected to this and he proceed to say that it was moms fault for being to harsh on him (refering to fact that difficult child 2 says he got into the fights and has been answering back and not obeying so he got punished at home lost privilege to go outside with friends except when he has counseling shift and he only recieved one hour of tv time and two hours of computer time) REALLY!!! are you serious? to harsh you say well i guess in difficult child 2's mind we should have just taking away his privilege to take a shower (being sarcastic but in reality he probably would say that) Well his therapist says she is shocked but she says that maybe he was trying to trick him (reverse psychology i guess) but it was pretty clear that was not his idea. Well right now we are trying to find out who to complain to. we have let his school and daycare know and they want letters from the psychiatrist saying that as well, we are all concerned this is a child who has not only threatened to hurt himself and others but has gone through with it, we are (and i cant put this in any other terms) but we are trying to cover our A@# before something really bad happens, i dont understand what his psychiatrist is thinking, and i really feel that until he is the headline on tommorrows paper; it's ok not to take his medications help i dont know what else to do any suggestions.