Jeppy, it was a combination of things. Dealing with some of her triggers, like homework, but putting her in an after-care program at school, which allows them to do homework with the help of a teacher. The after care program also allows her to play with her friends on those days and keeps her occupied. The other two days a week she has other activities. I only have to deal with homework one day a week.
The very last major blow up she had, I videotaped the aftermath of it and showed her docs. They finally got it. They placed her on Risperdal to help control the aggression.
I also had a psychologist come to my home once a week who really helped me a lot.
She is still a difficult child and still has some issues.....but the fact that the rages are in control makes life a whole lot better and I'm able to deal with the difficult child issues for what they are and I don't want to crumple after dealing with four hours of screaming and trashing her room. There is a lot to celebrate about. I don't need antidepressants anymore, like I did when she was at her worst.