Mattsmom277
Active Member
My bad, my first thought was that if he was old enough to not listen to his own mama, he sure is old enough to not be impacted by his drama queen gran isn't he? As for loving him more than you, it sounds from all of your posts of her, that is not capable of a healthy form of love towards anyone. If how she approaches difficult child is "loving him more than you", I'd consider you the lucky one because it sure hasn't helped difficult child at all now has it? Argh. She'd drive the patience of a saint!
I think its time perhaps to consider letting go of those statements that stick like glue after years and years. I speak from my heart as one who often hears that voice in my own head of hateful or cruel or thoughtless comments that stuck through my entire life. She is toxic and unhealthy and incapable of loving healthy balanced relationships. Therefore anything out of her mouth? Not worth the power it holds to hurt you, especially years later. It stung then, and stuck with years and continued stinging. With insight and time you're able to accurately portray her as the disconnected toxic person she is, with her own obvious issues. Allow yourself the peace that comes with letting go of her statements that stuck all this time because it is time now to consider their source. Do not let her words define you or your worth or your value as mother or as the person in control of defining yourself in positive ways. She has had her time and now it is YOUR time.
I think its time perhaps to consider letting go of those statements that stick like glue after years and years. I speak from my heart as one who often hears that voice in my own head of hateful or cruel or thoughtless comments that stuck through my entire life. She is toxic and unhealthy and incapable of loving healthy balanced relationships. Therefore anything out of her mouth? Not worth the power it holds to hurt you, especially years later. It stung then, and stuck with years and continued stinging. With insight and time you're able to accurately portray her as the disconnected toxic person she is, with her own obvious issues. Allow yourself the peace that comes with letting go of her statements that stuck all this time because it is time now to consider their source. Do not let her words define you or your worth or your value as mother or as the person in control of defining yourself in positive ways. She has had her time and now it is YOUR time.