MaryWhiteFace
New Member
I am a foster parent of a 4 year old girl. She is undiagnosed but obviously has serious and severe ODD. (probable victim of sexual abuse).
My Observations:
Hurting other children in home when irritated or not irritated (ie.. pushing them harshly without warning for no obvious reason, poking eyes, scratching.. you name it).
Swearing, lying and talkback.
Sexually acting out as a means to annoy and control.
Does not respect or listen or follow rules, expectations or directions (unless in she wants to).
Hurting bugs and smiling.
Smiles with most negative behavior or will even laugh when people get hurt.
Constant defiance... not matter what. Almost enjoyalbe for child.
Does not respond to time outs.
Bio mom and dad both drug addicts and criminals
Too young for "diagnosis or medications".. especially since foster child .. resources are limited.
Let's just say it is hard to put into words, but it is constant and disturbing for most to see. She is good at preschool though (which i don't understand).
She has been defiant at previous foster placement (so it isn't just me) and responds the same to all my family memebers.
Am I just stupid to consider adopting this child into my family. I already have her older bio sister... so I feel obligated in some sense.
Can this get better? I am fearful it won't as I have seen no changes in this year and his bio family history.
Should I run and protect my other children for potential long term problems. Could this end up destroying my happiness and my family. It currently causes me fatigue and irriation but somehow I manage.
thanks for any help.. mary
My Observations:
Hurting other children in home when irritated or not irritated (ie.. pushing them harshly without warning for no obvious reason, poking eyes, scratching.. you name it).
Swearing, lying and talkback.
Sexually acting out as a means to annoy and control.
Does not respect or listen or follow rules, expectations or directions (unless in she wants to).
Hurting bugs and smiling.
Smiles with most negative behavior or will even laugh when people get hurt.
Constant defiance... not matter what. Almost enjoyalbe for child.
Does not respond to time outs.
Bio mom and dad both drug addicts and criminals
Too young for "diagnosis or medications".. especially since foster child .. resources are limited.
Let's just say it is hard to put into words, but it is constant and disturbing for most to see. She is good at preschool though (which i don't understand).
She has been defiant at previous foster placement (so it isn't just me) and responds the same to all my family memebers.
Am I just stupid to consider adopting this child into my family. I already have her older bio sister... so I feel obligated in some sense.
Can this get better? I am fearful it won't as I have seen no changes in this year and his bio family history.
Should I run and protect my other children for potential long term problems. Could this end up destroying my happiness and my family. It currently causes me fatigue and irriation but somehow I manage.
thanks for any help.. mary