timer lady
Queen of Hearts
kt is definitely showing signs of maturity here at home. However, at school, she's been dropped 2 levels for a sassy, disrespectful mouth & for leaving the room when frustrated.
Where I live with kt, it's a hugely different story. kt told me last night that she is tired of the "anger" that comes with her tantrums. "Tantrums tire me out mom & don't get me anything". You think?
"No more tantrums for at least a month, mom." I'll take that one ktbug - I really will.
She actually sat down with me & had a one on one conversation about her body. She doesn't like how it's changing. She doesn't like how boys treat her because her body is changing. "Mom, I just want to be a young lady & have fun". I've talked with kt's Integrated Listening Systems (ILS) worker & PCA; they will be taking kt out clothes shopping so she can be fashionable & modest at the same time.
kt equates fashion with sexy/slutty like you tend to see on television. I don't bring these clothes into the house - these clothes tend to show up after respite.
Having Integrated Listening Systems (ILS) worker & PCA (much younger ladies than myself) to show kt fashionable yet modest clothing will help. (I'm too old fashioned - something out of the dinosaur era.)
The other component, however, is standing up for herself. Not allowing these young men talk to her in the way they are (can we say sexual harassment - it's being dealt with). I told kt that no matter what, she is to hold her head high; that she is kt & the best kt she can be. No one can hurt her emotionally, unless she allows it. Never be alone with someone who makes you uncomfortable - in fact, it's best to stay in groups.
All this out of my 13 y/o, going on 4 (many days). I'm not so cyncial that I don't believe what kt is saying to me. I'm weary enough to know that her emotional state is fragile & I'll have to really watch this situation.
I'm not venting, really. Looking more for advice from you experienced mums with young ladies in this confusing time of life.
(Could be that she needs to stop playing quarterback on her school's team - she's darned good though.)
Where I live with kt, it's a hugely different story. kt told me last night that she is tired of the "anger" that comes with her tantrums. "Tantrums tire me out mom & don't get me anything". You think?
"No more tantrums for at least a month, mom." I'll take that one ktbug - I really will.
She actually sat down with me & had a one on one conversation about her body. She doesn't like how it's changing. She doesn't like how boys treat her because her body is changing. "Mom, I just want to be a young lady & have fun". I've talked with kt's Integrated Listening Systems (ILS) worker & PCA; they will be taking kt out clothes shopping so she can be fashionable & modest at the same time.
kt equates fashion with sexy/slutty like you tend to see on television. I don't bring these clothes into the house - these clothes tend to show up after respite.
Having Integrated Listening Systems (ILS) worker & PCA (much younger ladies than myself) to show kt fashionable yet modest clothing will help. (I'm too old fashioned - something out of the dinosaur era.)
The other component, however, is standing up for herself. Not allowing these young men talk to her in the way they are (can we say sexual harassment - it's being dealt with). I told kt that no matter what, she is to hold her head high; that she is kt & the best kt she can be. No one can hurt her emotionally, unless she allows it. Never be alone with someone who makes you uncomfortable - in fact, it's best to stay in groups.
All this out of my 13 y/o, going on 4 (many days). I'm not so cyncial that I don't believe what kt is saying to me. I'm weary enough to know that her emotional state is fragile & I'll have to really watch this situation.
I'm not venting, really. Looking more for advice from you experienced mums with young ladies in this confusing time of life.
(Could be that she needs to stop playing quarterback on her school's team - she's darned good though.)