oldchristine
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Hello, I am new here and hoping for input and support for my 15 yr old daughter.She is the oldest of 4, and has had issues since she was in grade school with not wanting to go places, being unusually stubborn/anger issues, and showed early signs of depression. She was diagnosed mild ADD when she was 10, but those medications made her severely depressed, almost psychotic when she was 12. We took her off, and a mild depression continued.Got counseling. Usually about she and her sisters bio dad in a far away state. He is narcissistic,probably ODD.
She began refusing to go to school in 7th grade. Just would lie in bed not talking or moving. I tried taking away all her privleges, all her electronics. She is addicted to computer and games. We still have to ration them. No difference, when she was OK she would go, not OK she would not even move.Had the school counselor come out, she laid in bed immoble. Put her on anti-depressants which helped but did not solve all attendance issues. Same problem in 8th grade, esp in late winter, depression and not getting up.
I homeschooled her last year, using 9th grade curriculum, but she would not comply with her assignments,ripped up a book we were reading, and went online to her chat websites when I left the room. She is very intellegent and has no learning disorders. Just gets tired of the work.
So I placed her back in school this year, with her friends but one year behind and she is already having major attendance issues. She tells me she does not care about her education,and she gets excited only about going online to be her avatar or drawing her anime characters. She rarely leaves the house and does not take care of her body-shaving,skin care, exercise the way a normal girl would.
Nothing motivates or scares her. Everything negative makes her cry.The counselors have been out to our house and explained that she may be ordered to go to a residential facility program. She has missed even after that.
I feel I have tried everything, she is on the right medication-Zoloft-and we are very close and have a loving relationship. I realize going to the court run school may help, but I am worried because, while defiant, she is mostly depressed. Will they be equipped to handle her emotional issues and will she be at risk of suicide? Or when she is somewhere she does not want to be, will she grow up and start making better choices? I am beyond frustrated, and do not know what to do, allow this to happen or try to get her into a psychiatric facility. Any similar situation would be so welcome. I feel so alone, and don't know of any kids like her.
She began refusing to go to school in 7th grade. Just would lie in bed not talking or moving. I tried taking away all her privleges, all her electronics. She is addicted to computer and games. We still have to ration them. No difference, when she was OK she would go, not OK she would not even move.Had the school counselor come out, she laid in bed immoble. Put her on anti-depressants which helped but did not solve all attendance issues. Same problem in 8th grade, esp in late winter, depression and not getting up.
I homeschooled her last year, using 9th grade curriculum, but she would not comply with her assignments,ripped up a book we were reading, and went online to her chat websites when I left the room. She is very intellegent and has no learning disorders. Just gets tired of the work.
So I placed her back in school this year, with her friends but one year behind and she is already having major attendance issues. She tells me she does not care about her education,and she gets excited only about going online to be her avatar or drawing her anime characters. She rarely leaves the house and does not take care of her body-shaving,skin care, exercise the way a normal girl would.
Nothing motivates or scares her. Everything negative makes her cry.The counselors have been out to our house and explained that she may be ordered to go to a residential facility program. She has missed even after that.
I feel I have tried everything, she is on the right medication-Zoloft-and we are very close and have a loving relationship. I realize going to the court run school may help, but I am worried because, while defiant, she is mostly depressed. Will they be equipped to handle her emotional issues and will she be at risk of suicide? Or when she is somewhere she does not want to be, will she grow up and start making better choices? I am beyond frustrated, and do not know what to do, allow this to happen or try to get her into a psychiatric facility. Any similar situation would be so welcome. I feel so alone, and don't know of any kids like her.