I recently found out my 20 year old son is doing heroin. He claims he only did it twice but I found where he had needles hidden. The last two years have been a nightmare. He was a good kid and got good grades and a full ride football scholarship. Three months into college he dropped out and came back to our city and was staying with friends because I wouldn't let him stay with us. He stole from us and friends and I could tell something was way off with him. I found out it was pain pills. So he went to live with his dad out of state and that only lasted about 2 months and he came back with the promise he would get a job and go back to school. He never did either one. He can't keep a job for more than a month. When unemployed friends or dealers want to hang out he calls in sick and after a few times he always gets fired. He doesn't help clean up and his room looks like a dirty storage room. Anyway, long story short I knew he was back on or still doing the pills but had no idea about heroin till I found the needles. We had a very long talk and he agreed to go to rehab but I had to get him insurance first. It took not even a week and I told him last night they verified the insurance so you are going tomorrow. He changed his mind. He doesn't think he needs help now. I told him last night that he has till 4:00 today to change his mind and if he doesn't then he needs to move out. I am tired of things being stolen, kids I don't know coming over all the time, the mess he leaves for me, the disrespect....I could go on and on. He totalled my car and I didn't have full coverage on it so now I have no car and I have to carpool with my husband. I am hoping once he realizes he has no way to even eat with no job, no car, no license to get a job. Oh and he has a warrant out for violation of probation. He was on probation for possesion of marijuana and never went to probation. He used the money I gave him for the fines to buy drugs. My husband and I fear he will break into the house and steal everything we have. Is throwing him out the only way? My husband told me he is going to leave me if something isn't done soon. He is my sons step dad and they don't get along. This is consuming me. I can't concentrate at work and I cry all the time over it. He went from a good student and athlete to a drug addict almost over night. Am I doing this right?