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butterflydreams
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Well, overall difficult child is doing wonderful in all areas except school. He has F's in all his classes, he has failed every quarter so far and is heading to failing the year. He tries (or so he says). He is smart but has trouble staying on task. I emailed all his teachers last week for an update, here is some of their responses:
Math: [SIZE=+0]In math he is hit or miss. He is either completely on task and answering questions or the complete opposite. Unfortunately, it's the latter more often.
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Math: [SIZE=+0]In math he is hit or miss. He is either completely on task and answering questions or the complete opposite. Unfortunately, it's the latter more often.
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[SIZE=+0]Science: difficult child has done a great job of assimilating into the science class. He seems to be happier and more social with a lot of the students. He engages me on topics of science interest too. The drawback is for him to stay focused on getting the work done in his journal for each and every day as a first and foremost priority. He gets easily distracted and remains off- task. This leads to not being able to complete the work on time since there are no at-home texts available, nor would there be the team interaction on the answers.[/SIZE]
[SIZE=+0]I can't anchor myself nearby to be a constant reminder (which has been shown to get results).
I verbally spoke to his English and Reading teachers and they say the same thing. Verbally he engages, but when it comes to written he just doesn't do it as well as he has extreme trouble staying on task.
When I met with the school psychiatric and the counselor they just said he needs to do the work, we know he can. He doesn't remember when he has homework.
Lately there have been many other improvements - for instance, within the last few weeks he actually spends more time outside with friends in our apartment complex than he does inside. This is a first in a very long time. He has 3 boys that are in his grade at school that live in our complex, they seem like very nice boys. This is major because for the last 2 years he hasn't really socialized.
I understand and I have told the school that you have to figure that for 2 years, difficult child has been in and out of the hospital and partial and has essentially not had very much school work and no homework. He has been back in regular school since Oct, with a brief hospital stay in January.
I am working on a plan so that I can stay home and go to school full-time to get my degree, this will enable me to be home when he gets home. Right now, it is just him and his sister at home until about 6pm except 1 night when I have school and don't get home until 9ish and another night about 7:30pm.
difficult child really needs to do his work right after school because he takes his medications at 6pm and after that his concentration is even worse - I have tried to work with him on math after that and it is useless. Sometimes he falls asleep by 7:30-8pm. If he doesn't take his medications at 6pm, he won't get up in time in the morning.
I just don't know what to do. difficult child gets so frustrated. He said last night, whats the point in trying, I am failing anyway. He says he just wants to start over next year.
The school psychiatric had said at one point that we would take him repeating 7th grade off the table because repeating doesn't really help kids, it can cause other problems. The counselor interrupted him and said she would have no choice but for him to repeat. Now I was told in 5th grade that he would have to repeat only to find the next year that they had passed him anyway. When they did testing to evaluation him for an IEP, he tested 12 grade plus for reading and 8th grade for math.
I am so frustrated. I wish I could leave my job before fall, but at this point, I just don't think I can. I am looking at the end of the year - alot will depend on finances. We are still looking at possibly moving to Missouri, but that won't be until probably end of school next year.
I just don't know. I can't get him to do it when I am not there and after I get home, it's near impossible.
Sorry for rambling, but that is how my mind is right now.
Christy
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I verbally spoke to his English and Reading teachers and they say the same thing. Verbally he engages, but when it comes to written he just doesn't do it as well as he has extreme trouble staying on task.
When I met with the school psychiatric and the counselor they just said he needs to do the work, we know he can. He doesn't remember when he has homework.
Lately there have been many other improvements - for instance, within the last few weeks he actually spends more time outside with friends in our apartment complex than he does inside. This is a first in a very long time. He has 3 boys that are in his grade at school that live in our complex, they seem like very nice boys. This is major because for the last 2 years he hasn't really socialized.
I understand and I have told the school that you have to figure that for 2 years, difficult child has been in and out of the hospital and partial and has essentially not had very much school work and no homework. He has been back in regular school since Oct, with a brief hospital stay in January.
I am working on a plan so that I can stay home and go to school full-time to get my degree, this will enable me to be home when he gets home. Right now, it is just him and his sister at home until about 6pm except 1 night when I have school and don't get home until 9ish and another night about 7:30pm.
difficult child really needs to do his work right after school because he takes his medications at 6pm and after that his concentration is even worse - I have tried to work with him on math after that and it is useless. Sometimes he falls asleep by 7:30-8pm. If he doesn't take his medications at 6pm, he won't get up in time in the morning.
I just don't know what to do. difficult child gets so frustrated. He said last night, whats the point in trying, I am failing anyway. He says he just wants to start over next year.
The school psychiatric had said at one point that we would take him repeating 7th grade off the table because repeating doesn't really help kids, it can cause other problems. The counselor interrupted him and said she would have no choice but for him to repeat. Now I was told in 5th grade that he would have to repeat only to find the next year that they had passed him anyway. When they did testing to evaluation him for an IEP, he tested 12 grade plus for reading and 8th grade for math.
I am so frustrated. I wish I could leave my job before fall, but at this point, I just don't think I can. I am looking at the end of the year - alot will depend on finances. We are still looking at possibly moving to Missouri, but that won't be until probably end of school next year.
I just don't know. I can't get him to do it when I am not there and after I get home, it's near impossible.
Sorry for rambling, but that is how my mind is right now.
Christy
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