Terryforvols
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Thank goodness difficult child was picked up last week for violation of felony probation. She had the opportunity to go to a 90 day prog for women and moms who are addicts before turning herself in but in all her difficult child wisdom didnt go! "No ride" Amazing how she can get to a pharmacy or strange MD office without an issue!! Anyway....we told her we would notify the court officer of her whereabouts (she was out of county) if she didnt go to treatment and we did. She apparently cant figure out how the police found her????? When she is transfered to the county where the warrant was issued in TX and gets a court app lawyer she can request bail (terrified face)! I emailed her court officer to see if the DA or court can request no bail. Does anyone know if that is possible? She has no where to live no family there etc. She SAYS that she wants to go to a court ordered prog in TX called CTTC or something like that. She has run out of chances and it will either be just jail or treatment. Although sitting there waiting to be transferred is giving her time to think thats good and bad. She learns so many "tricks" while in jail and doesnt realize no one says she needs to act on them outside! I am so happy she is in jail and if she is given any type of bond there are all these random idiot "men" she met online who will get her out in a second! Of course they want NOTHING in return per her. That part of her story sickens me for so so many reasons her safety primarily.
I had learned since 2009-2010 I needed to detach from her and except for 2 mos in 2012 and dec-feb now had pretty much not talked to her. husband has taken longer but we are on the same page overall. This time for some reason has been incredibly hard. She has 2 children now a 6 yo daughter and 2 yo son who adore her although GD is old enough now to know momma leaves and doesnt come back. They are with their dad who is also an ex-addict but he has a good job and really seems to have changed. The other sets of gparents are in the same city and the kids are happy. It had been almost 18 mos since we had seen them last when we saw them in feb. We get a week with them this summer when we can bring them to TN. My hardest issue is not understanding how she can love them but love drugs more. I dont know what hole she is trying to fill but it is heartbreaking esp for the 6 yo. If things dont change she is very smart and will end up resenting her momma. Punishment alone does nothing for difficult child been there done that. Whatever drives her needs to be worked on. I know believe she may be bipolar although she has only been diag as depressed and that was in 2005. I dont think she has ever been on the right medications and Rx drugs just self medicate. And...that crazy behavior of stealing lying on and on!
Oh kathy813 I think our difficult children were separated at birth! I read your posts and think with a few details changed they are so incredibly close to the same! We are financially still recovering from difficult child too! I wld spend the rehab $ again in a second but all the $$ given from falling for all the b***. And stealing. And just plain loving her! Oh...hard learned lessons!
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I had learned since 2009-2010 I needed to detach from her and except for 2 mos in 2012 and dec-feb now had pretty much not talked to her. husband has taken longer but we are on the same page overall. This time for some reason has been incredibly hard. She has 2 children now a 6 yo daughter and 2 yo son who adore her although GD is old enough now to know momma leaves and doesnt come back. They are with their dad who is also an ex-addict but he has a good job and really seems to have changed. The other sets of gparents are in the same city and the kids are happy. It had been almost 18 mos since we had seen them last when we saw them in feb. We get a week with them this summer when we can bring them to TN. My hardest issue is not understanding how she can love them but love drugs more. I dont know what hole she is trying to fill but it is heartbreaking esp for the 6 yo. If things dont change she is very smart and will end up resenting her momma. Punishment alone does nothing for difficult child been there done that. Whatever drives her needs to be worked on. I know believe she may be bipolar although she has only been diag as depressed and that was in 2005. I dont think she has ever been on the right medications and Rx drugs just self medicate. And...that crazy behavior of stealing lying on and on!
Oh kathy813 I think our difficult children were separated at birth! I read your posts and think with a few details changed they are so incredibly close to the same! We are financially still recovering from difficult child too! I wld spend the rehab $ again in a second but all the $$ given from falling for all the b***. And stealing. And just plain loving her! Oh...hard learned lessons!
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