pinevalley
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difficult child was arrested last Friday, and my h and I refused to post his bond. He was shocked that we were not in the courtroom with him, and he was sent to Cook County jail. He called us from jail begging to get out of jail, telling us he knew he needed rehab, etc. We thought that a week-end in jail would terrify him, but this did not work at all. We posted his bond on Monday, and told difficult child that we were driving immediately to the rehab center (the same program that he was in 6 weeks ago). difficult child became enraged about going to rehab, screaming to us that he wanted to come home now. He was totally out of control in the car, and we called rehab and told them that we were having trouble bringing him to rehab. The intake person told me that they would not accept difficult child in his condition, and he needed at least one day at home to be stabilized on his medications. H and I did not want difficult child at home at all, so we drove immediately to emergency room of a local hospital and asked them to admit our son to stabilize his medications. The hospital refused to admit him, because by this time difficult child was calm and under control, and he told the doctor he just needed rest at home. We were not happy about this, but we had to bring difficult child back home.
Since he came home on Monday night we have tried to drive him to rehab 3 different times, without any success. difficult child has been staying out all day with his loser friends, and he comes home too late to be admitted to rehab, or doesn't come home at all. I told difficult child that rehab would still accept him if he arrived there this afternoon at 2pm. He was picked up by a friend in the morning, and at 1pm he called me with all kinds of excuses (he will go "tomorrow", it is too nice a day today to be stuck in rehab, etc.). Now I know that he is not ready to accept that he has a problem with drugs, and he will not get treatment at this time.
I was wrong in my last post, and we do not have a court ordered rehab for difficult child, so the sheriff can not take him to rehab. Our attorney told the judge that difficult child is willing to go to rehab when he is out of jail, but it is not court ordered. We have no way to force him to get treatment, and if we force him to stay he will just leave the program. I was so furious when he called today with more excuses, that I told him he was not allowed in our home at all. We have to file papers with the court to legally evict our son, and this could take up to 30 days. Until we evict him he can still get in our house, but I am keeping the doors locked at all times so that he can't enter. He stole jewelry from me, and he has tried to take all kinds of items out of our house to steal for money. We have most valuables locked up in our house, but I'm sure that if he comes in again he will try to steal anything he can carry.
I am shocked that our son is determined to destroy his life like this. He stole from me, and from two other families that trusted him. I really think that he is enjoying himself right now, because he does not have to go to rehab, he is not going to school at all, and he can hang out with his loser friends all day long and get high. I really regret that we bailed him out of jail, and it is only a matter of time before he goes right back to jail again. He will probably steal something and get arrested, and will be sent back to jail. That does not concern him at all. difficult child actually told me that he sold enough gold coins that he was able to open a savings account with the money. I have no idea where he got these coins (not from h or I), and it is not part of the items that he was arrested for last week.
difficult child has a court date in two weeks, and our attorney can ask for court ordered rehab at that time. I know that he is not ready to accept rehab right now, but this is still terribly hard to watch him spiral out of control. I feel like we are just waiting for another disaster to happen with our son. This is not the kid that we have raised for 18 years, and we don't even know him anymore.
Thank you for your prayers when he was in jail. I know that if he goes back to jail we will get lots of collect calls begging us to help him. This is all so very sad for us...
Since he came home on Monday night we have tried to drive him to rehab 3 different times, without any success. difficult child has been staying out all day with his loser friends, and he comes home too late to be admitted to rehab, or doesn't come home at all. I told difficult child that rehab would still accept him if he arrived there this afternoon at 2pm. He was picked up by a friend in the morning, and at 1pm he called me with all kinds of excuses (he will go "tomorrow", it is too nice a day today to be stuck in rehab, etc.). Now I know that he is not ready to accept that he has a problem with drugs, and he will not get treatment at this time.
I was wrong in my last post, and we do not have a court ordered rehab for difficult child, so the sheriff can not take him to rehab. Our attorney told the judge that difficult child is willing to go to rehab when he is out of jail, but it is not court ordered. We have no way to force him to get treatment, and if we force him to stay he will just leave the program. I was so furious when he called today with more excuses, that I told him he was not allowed in our home at all. We have to file papers with the court to legally evict our son, and this could take up to 30 days. Until we evict him he can still get in our house, but I am keeping the doors locked at all times so that he can't enter. He stole jewelry from me, and he has tried to take all kinds of items out of our house to steal for money. We have most valuables locked up in our house, but I'm sure that if he comes in again he will try to steal anything he can carry.
I am shocked that our son is determined to destroy his life like this. He stole from me, and from two other families that trusted him. I really think that he is enjoying himself right now, because he does not have to go to rehab, he is not going to school at all, and he can hang out with his loser friends all day long and get high. I really regret that we bailed him out of jail, and it is only a matter of time before he goes right back to jail again. He will probably steal something and get arrested, and will be sent back to jail. That does not concern him at all. difficult child actually told me that he sold enough gold coins that he was able to open a savings account with the money. I have no idea where he got these coins (not from h or I), and it is not part of the items that he was arrested for last week.
difficult child has a court date in two weeks, and our attorney can ask for court ordered rehab at that time. I know that he is not ready to accept rehab right now, but this is still terribly hard to watch him spiral out of control. I feel like we are just waiting for another disaster to happen with our son. This is not the kid that we have raised for 18 years, and we don't even know him anymore.
Thank you for your prayers when he was in jail. I know that if he goes back to jail we will get lots of collect calls begging us to help him. This is all so very sad for us...