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toughlovin
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OK think of me in a little while. I am having a phone conversation with my son and his therapist about discharge planning from the rehab where he is at. I questioned yesterday whether he was really ready to be discharged and checked to see how much it would cost if we were to keep him there private pay. It would be manageable.
Talked to the therapist this morning and she told us that sometimes you reach a point where they have done what they can do.... he does have major issues with authority and that may always be there (which may land him in jail eventually). He is doing better after his dads visit. So at this point she thinks he has gotten what he can get... that sometimes people get treatment overload. She says he has gotten good lessons from treatment and that now he has to put it to use... and maybe having a bit more freedom to make decisions will be what he needs. I just don't know.
So they are recommending two sober houses. One is the place he has already been kicked out of twice. My sense is he wasnt doing much there and it is a huge place. Apparently the other place is smaller, in a different area and very close to a mall where there are jobs and he wont need transportation.
So our stand is we will pay for one sober house but we are not going sober house shopping where he goes from place to place. He gets kicked out and thats it he is on the street. I will need to tell him that today. Also we are not giving him any money directly for anything. So if he needs money for groceries there has to be a way we do it through an account at the sober house... no more grocery card etc.
I am done being conned... and I need to tell him that too.
So think of me in the next hour or so and I will update again when the conversation is over.
TL
Talked to the therapist this morning and she told us that sometimes you reach a point where they have done what they can do.... he does have major issues with authority and that may always be there (which may land him in jail eventually). He is doing better after his dads visit. So at this point she thinks he has gotten what he can get... that sometimes people get treatment overload. She says he has gotten good lessons from treatment and that now he has to put it to use... and maybe having a bit more freedom to make decisions will be what he needs. I just don't know.
So they are recommending two sober houses. One is the place he has already been kicked out of twice. My sense is he wasnt doing much there and it is a huge place. Apparently the other place is smaller, in a different area and very close to a mall where there are jobs and he wont need transportation.
So our stand is we will pay for one sober house but we are not going sober house shopping where he goes from place to place. He gets kicked out and thats it he is on the street. I will need to tell him that today. Also we are not giving him any money directly for anything. So if he needs money for groceries there has to be a way we do it through an account at the sober house... no more grocery card etc.
I am done being conned... and I need to tell him that too.
So think of me in the next hour or so and I will update again when the conversation is over.
TL