lovemysons
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I haven't spoken with my mom since last Wednesday when we had a "discussion" about family taking care of family, etc.
I am trying to decide whether or not to tell my mom that I think she has been fairly selfish and stingy.
Even last Tues when I invited her over because Young difficult child's wife and the grandkids came over to my house she made a flip comment about "liking to go on that trip" when my middle granddaughter was trying to save all her spare change to go see the REAL Cinderella at Disney World. She did not say that SHE would like to take her great granddaughter to Disney World...Oh no that would never come out of her mouth. This also while I was handing clothes to daughter in law that husband and I recently bought for oldest Grandson starting Kindergarten...and while I even hand daughter in law a few dollars to take the kids out to McDonalds sometime soon. My mom's remark while I handed money to daughter in law was "I'll take the kid's to McDonalds". She meant if I was handing out money. I guess she thought that was a funny comment. But she has more disposable cash than any of us and rarely if ever parts with it for family.
My mom did not even pay for me to go to college. She did not pay for husband and I to wed either...and I am her only child.
My Aunt has told me that my mother has been selfish her whole life. So me telling her "what I think" will likely not change anything except put a wedge in our relationship. But I am tired of suppressing my thoughts and feelings when I am around her. It is constantly about her...she never thinks of what family might need that she might be able to help with. I'm just so tired of it.
So do I tell her what I think...that she is selfish and stingy? Or do I continue to just ignore the "Pink Elephant" in the room?
I don't know what to do...
LMS
I am trying to decide whether or not to tell my mom that I think she has been fairly selfish and stingy.
Even last Tues when I invited her over because Young difficult child's wife and the grandkids came over to my house she made a flip comment about "liking to go on that trip" when my middle granddaughter was trying to save all her spare change to go see the REAL Cinderella at Disney World. She did not say that SHE would like to take her great granddaughter to Disney World...Oh no that would never come out of her mouth. This also while I was handing clothes to daughter in law that husband and I recently bought for oldest Grandson starting Kindergarten...and while I even hand daughter in law a few dollars to take the kids out to McDonalds sometime soon. My mom's remark while I handed money to daughter in law was "I'll take the kid's to McDonalds". She meant if I was handing out money. I guess she thought that was a funny comment. But she has more disposable cash than any of us and rarely if ever parts with it for family.
My mom did not even pay for me to go to college. She did not pay for husband and I to wed either...and I am her only child.
My Aunt has told me that my mother has been selfish her whole life. So me telling her "what I think" will likely not change anything except put a wedge in our relationship. But I am tired of suppressing my thoughts and feelings when I am around her. It is constantly about her...she never thinks of what family might need that she might be able to help with. I'm just so tired of it.
So do I tell her what I think...that she is selfish and stingy? Or do I continue to just ignore the "Pink Elephant" in the room?
I don't know what to do...
LMS