I am so angry with difficult child lately...
For the first time ever, she has a friend. A true-blue friend. Unfortunately, difficult child treats her like garbage. Constantly insulting her, mocking, making fun, criticizing...and above all, just plain USING her!
difficult child will disrespect L to other people. Will ditch L at the drop of a hat to go hang out with someone new...only to come crawling back. difficult child will get herself invited to L's house and then come home with a ton of L's stuff - clothes, jewelry, a radio, and recently a HUGE bag of Beanie Babies. (L told difficult child that she wanted a few of those Beanie Babies back and difficult child told her NO!)
If it had been me? I'd have told difficult child where to stick it a loooooong time ago...but, for whatever reason, L continues to be a friend.
In the last few days, difficult child has set her sights on a new guy (J). Naturally, this means she must ditch L at all costs. So difficult child has been telling J that L is just a pathetic acquaintence who tries to 'hang out' with difficult child all the time...but she's such a loser! And difficult child has been trying to make a plan to go to a horror movie with J on Friday. (How do I know? I overhear their telephone calls.)
Meanwhile, difficult child denies to us that J is anything more than some dude from class. (Yea, right!)
Yesterday, difficult child comes home with a story about how this girl, C, invited difficult child to the movies Friday night....and even though difficult child would NEVER bring L along when she was hanging out with C...L gave difficult child some money so now difficult child can buy herself a movie ticket. Who else is going to be there? Well, ya know, there's no way of knowing who all might show up to the movies on a Friday night so difficult child cannot tell me anything about anybody that she might be hanging out with at the theatre.
So I tell her - sorry, difficult child, that sounds like a NO.
So difficult child calls J to tell him that she asked, but she cannot go. I say (while she's on the phone), "Oh is that C? Maybe you can find out who else she invited?"
And my question basically gets me a dirty look and a withering explanation that she and C never call each other, it's J - and how would J know anything about who would be at the movies? Ugh!
So then difficult child spends the rest of the telephone call bragging to J how she's gonna beat up this person and that person, and she wants to kill so-and-so, and L is such a dork, and this other person is such an idiot...
I hate hearing this stuff. I hate all the lies and trickery and manipulation and the cruelty.
It makes me feel sick.
I know there's no solution - but sometimes I wish difficult child would get a little "payback" for all this **** she dishes out.
(And then, I remember I'm supposed to be safely inside my "Bubble o Happiness"...which doesn't seem to work so well....I'd rather be firing a volley or two off the ramparts - but I disgress. Ooooohhhhmmmmm - serenity now! - oooooohhhmmmmm)
Thanks for listening....
For the first time ever, she has a friend. A true-blue friend. Unfortunately, difficult child treats her like garbage. Constantly insulting her, mocking, making fun, criticizing...and above all, just plain USING her!
difficult child will disrespect L to other people. Will ditch L at the drop of a hat to go hang out with someone new...only to come crawling back. difficult child will get herself invited to L's house and then come home with a ton of L's stuff - clothes, jewelry, a radio, and recently a HUGE bag of Beanie Babies. (L told difficult child that she wanted a few of those Beanie Babies back and difficult child told her NO!)
If it had been me? I'd have told difficult child where to stick it a loooooong time ago...but, for whatever reason, L continues to be a friend.
In the last few days, difficult child has set her sights on a new guy (J). Naturally, this means she must ditch L at all costs. So difficult child has been telling J that L is just a pathetic acquaintence who tries to 'hang out' with difficult child all the time...but she's such a loser! And difficult child has been trying to make a plan to go to a horror movie with J on Friday. (How do I know? I overhear their telephone calls.)
Meanwhile, difficult child denies to us that J is anything more than some dude from class. (Yea, right!)
Yesterday, difficult child comes home with a story about how this girl, C, invited difficult child to the movies Friday night....and even though difficult child would NEVER bring L along when she was hanging out with C...L gave difficult child some money so now difficult child can buy herself a movie ticket. Who else is going to be there? Well, ya know, there's no way of knowing who all might show up to the movies on a Friday night so difficult child cannot tell me anything about anybody that she might be hanging out with at the theatre.
So I tell her - sorry, difficult child, that sounds like a NO.
So difficult child calls J to tell him that she asked, but she cannot go. I say (while she's on the phone), "Oh is that C? Maybe you can find out who else she invited?"
And my question basically gets me a dirty look and a withering explanation that she and C never call each other, it's J - and how would J know anything about who would be at the movies? Ugh!
So then difficult child spends the rest of the telephone call bragging to J how she's gonna beat up this person and that person, and she wants to kill so-and-so, and L is such a dork, and this other person is such an idiot...
I hate hearing this stuff. I hate all the lies and trickery and manipulation and the cruelty.
It makes me feel sick.
I know there's no solution - but sometimes I wish difficult child would get a little "payback" for all this **** she dishes out.
(And then, I remember I'm supposed to be safely inside my "Bubble o Happiness"...which doesn't seem to work so well....I'd rather be firing a volley or two off the ramparts - but I disgress. Ooooohhhhmmmmm - serenity now! - oooooohhhmmmmm)
Thanks for listening....