Eeyore is at HIGH SCHOOL
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TeDo
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When something works, it WORKS. Way to go Mom!! Fill us in when he gets home.
JJJ
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Mixed results.
Best I can tell, he had a great day except for math. He got either goofy or mouthy to the teacher and got in trouble (I think just a stern look and a "knock it off"). He came home in an okay mood but it went quickly south (as I am sure he was brooding about getting yelled at in math and how by not telling me he was lying and since he was lying that meant he was evil and should be locked up right now and is going to hell).
Ended with him storming away from the dinner table and punching a hole in my newly painted foyer wall. Fun. Not. Since with the direction of his therapist we had created a "Clear Expectation" plan listing the 12 things he wants to be allowed to do and our expectations for his behavior and grades in order to be allowed to do those things, I didn't have to think about the punishment. Damage to property is a major offense which results in 7 days of privilige loss and up to 30 days of restrictions (depending on how he is doing across the board, there is a whole chart -- per his request).
He prefers to communicate in writing when he is upset so I gave him this letter:
It was quiet for a while but I just heard him hit the wall again. Didn't sound hard enough to add another hole to the many in his room....
Best I can tell, he had a great day except for math. He got either goofy or mouthy to the teacher and got in trouble (I think just a stern look and a "knock it off"). He came home in an okay mood but it went quickly south (as I am sure he was brooding about getting yelled at in math and how by not telling me he was lying and since he was lying that meant he was evil and should be locked up right now and is going to hell).
Ended with him storming away from the dinner table and punching a hole in my newly painted foyer wall. Fun. Not. Since with the direction of his therapist we had created a "Clear Expectation" plan listing the 12 things he wants to be allowed to do and our expectations for his behavior and grades in order to be allowed to do those things, I didn't have to think about the punishment. Damage to property is a major offense which results in 7 days of privilige loss and up to 30 days of restrictions (depending on how he is doing across the board, there is a whole chart -- per his request).
He prefers to communicate in writing when he is upset so I gave him this letter:
Letter said:
It was quiet for a while but I just heard him hit the wall again. Didn't sound hard enough to add another hole to the many in his room....
First day of high school is BRUTAL. Frosh week. Tons of noise, tumult, confusion. Lots of pranks and practical jokes.
Even if all the classes had gone perfectly, you could still have gotten this.
I mean - I'd probably have a melt-down too, if I had to go back to the first week of high school.
Even if all the classes had gone perfectly, you could still have gotten this.
I mean - I'd probably have a melt-down too, if I had to go back to the first week of high school.
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TeDo
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Since the letter refers to things HE agareed to, I hope he is willing to comply without too much more damage. I agree with Insane, the first WEEK of high school is brutal. It is a huge change (noise, routine, people, etc) from the summer. Hope it calms down fast. {{{{(((HUGS)))}}}} to you both.
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TeDo
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YEAH Eyore. I am very glad things ended on a better note. I hope it continues. In our house, that would be a sure sign of progress.
DammitJanet
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I feel for him. Its never an easy thing going to HS.
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ML
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My prayers are with him.. and with all our kiddos going through transitions this year. Manster starts Middle School Monday. He threw up last Monday before he had to register... but after opening the locker 5 times, walking around the school and running into one of his friends (there will be a few from his K-6 but the majority went to a different feeder school) he feels a bit better.
JJJ
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He threw another fit Friday because he had to come to the campground with me to wait for his dad to pick him up instead of being allowed to stay home alone (due to punching the wall yesterday). I just got home from camping and he handed me his homework folder. He has 3 assignments due on Monday and didn't start any of them "I was waiting for you." I pointed out that I already did freshman year and that I doubted he need me to help him make a list of 5 facts from his past, 5 facts about his present and 5 hopes for his future. Now he is all grumpy cause he is trying to order me around and i am just giving him the raised eyebrow look.
JJJ
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husband just watched me help Eeyore with a simple logic problem from his homework. What should have taken 10 minutes tops took almost 40. He was spinning in circles, giggling, etc. husband now gets why I am exhausted by the time he gets home on school days (he always thought, how hard can the 3 hours after school be lol).
