It appears difficult child-daughter is STARTING to realize her behaviors and choices since Aug 2009 MIGHT have SOME consequences. easy child said she got a "weird" call where difficult child-daughter was whining that NO-ONE contacts her and she doesn't understand why. (re: extended family-not us) easy child replied saying "it's a two way street you know... who do YOU call?" I keep trying to educate those who have "some contact" with both difficult child-s that a KEY SYMPTOM of Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) is the "cause and effect reasoning part of their brain" is usually under-developed and they just don't always "get" what should appear obvious. I tell them it is unloving to expect the Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) s to figure it out on their own and/or pretend nothing ever happened. I explained to easy child that difficult child's cause/effect-reasoning part of the brain is delayed because of Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD)... BUT... As past history has evidenced... she EVENTUALLY "gets it" when she is consistently presented with the truth over and over again. easy child is (and others are) understandably uncomfortable "lovingly confronting our difficult child-s with truth." We are encouraged that difficult child-daughter is starting to notice something has changed. We remain hopeful.