I am so stinking mad at my -ex right now I could scream! Yeah, there's no longer a "d" in front of him....maybe an "s" for or an "i" for Ig!!!
So he makes the 2 hour drive to see his boys today, doesn't get here until after 2:00 p.m. We go out to the museum and a festival downtown which was cool, we come back to our house and he sits........and sits......and sits.....on the couch......not interacting at all with the kids.....for 1 1/2 hours! It's now 7:30, the time difficult child 2 starts getting really sleepy and clingy...and Ex decides this is the appropriate time to discuss when the boys might get to come and stay at his house again.
(short history, ex's wife has been hitting the boys, screams, throws things, threatens, etc...)
I try to accomodate his need to talk until difficult child 2 plops on my lap for some comfort which I am happy to give......difficult child 2 asks dad if he can read him a book, dad says "not until you put your jammas on"....well difficult child 2 gets upset, it goes on for 20 minutes or so and by the end the poor kid is so exhausted he wants absolutely nothing to do with his father and crawls into my bed and crashes.
Now difficult child 1 and easy child are in the room and EX continues on, only louder and in a condesending voice...I tell him this is not an appropriate time for this and if he doesn't stop, he'll have to leave.....well, he didn't stop and wouldn't stop so he's ranting and raving in front of the kids. I tell him to put his shoes on and leave or I'm calling the cops....then of course the blame is all on me, it's all my fault, he has to trust me therefore I should trust him, yadda yadda yadda....
I kick him out, now difficult child 1 is upset again and I am just fired up!!! I think I need a lawyer...I have no money, at all! We have joint custody, and I have physical custody.
I mean he supposedly came here to spend the day with his boys, but couldn't let it be that....never did let the book be read to him....what a total %$#
So he makes the 2 hour drive to see his boys today, doesn't get here until after 2:00 p.m. We go out to the museum and a festival downtown which was cool, we come back to our house and he sits........and sits......and sits.....on the couch......not interacting at all with the kids.....for 1 1/2 hours! It's now 7:30, the time difficult child 2 starts getting really sleepy and clingy...and Ex decides this is the appropriate time to discuss when the boys might get to come and stay at his house again.
(short history, ex's wife has been hitting the boys, screams, throws things, threatens, etc...)
I try to accomodate his need to talk until difficult child 2 plops on my lap for some comfort which I am happy to give......difficult child 2 asks dad if he can read him a book, dad says "not until you put your jammas on"....well difficult child 2 gets upset, it goes on for 20 minutes or so and by the end the poor kid is so exhausted he wants absolutely nothing to do with his father and crawls into my bed and crashes.
Now difficult child 1 and easy child are in the room and EX continues on, only louder and in a condesending voice...I tell him this is not an appropriate time for this and if he doesn't stop, he'll have to leave.....well, he didn't stop and wouldn't stop so he's ranting and raving in front of the kids. I tell him to put his shoes on and leave or I'm calling the cops....then of course the blame is all on me, it's all my fault, he has to trust me therefore I should trust him, yadda yadda yadda....
I kick him out, now difficult child 1 is upset again and I am just fired up!!! I think I need a lawyer...I have no money, at all! We have joint custody, and I have physical custody.
I mean he supposedly came here to spend the day with his boys, but couldn't let it be that....never did let the book be read to him....what a total %$#