Hi everyone, I am new here... Thank you in advance for taking the time to read this post. I have two children, daughter (2) and DS/Oliver (4). My son has always been very headstrong, slightly defiant starting at age 2 1/2, but in March of this year- something completely changed...and it was an overnight change from "normal" to "outrageous". Within a month I had enough incident reports to cover my entire bedroom floor and of course Oliver was let go from that school. I ended up moving daughter out of it as well. The next Pre-K, Oliver lasted two hours and was told he could never come back. daughter is currently still at that school and doing good. After taking turns missing days, and requiring assistance from Oliver's Uncle for care purposes during weekdays, I enrolled him into a private church preschool. They probably tried the hardest for him. In the end, his behaviour was endangering others, including teachers. They suggested a therapist, and we began to see her. $$ has been a big issue, so the visits have slowed down. Since we've started there, she has diagnosed him with severe ADHD and ODD. In this time frame, we moved from his Grandfather's house into our own. I saw a huge change just from that (A POSITIVE ONE). My daughter's school director offered to give Oliver another try. So last week was week 1 and it went amazing. This week however, we are back to square one. I decided to try the half day, thinking maybe being in that environment was too much for such an extended period of time. I think today was the final straw for his trial period to attend school again. I had been on a waiting list for the Regional Center, which both his Pediatrician and Therapist didn't think he needed, but neither could provide me a solid solution or facility that would help/care for him. Some of the behaviours that he displays: *Complete regression with using the toilet in the last 4 -5months( he only has accidents of both kinds in his underwear now) *Temper *Irratibility *Aggressive outbursts towards whoever is within arms reach *Total defiance to requests from any adult *Frequent indecisiveness, i.e. I will ask him what shirt he wants to wear and to pick it out he says- I don't care. So I end up picking a shirt that's red. All of a sudden he's screaming and throwing things saying that he wanted a green shirt and then he expects me to put back the red shirt so that he can then get up and get the green shirt. Another side note is that Oliver is extremely intelligent...to the point that sometimes as his mother its a bit scary. I could use some support/ advice because as it stands, I myself am 3000 miles away from my family. We moved here to be closer to Oliver's Father's family. I feel very alone here in Los Angeles and I am becoming fearful for my son's future.