Huge vent. Would like your thoughts.
I normally am fastidious with my appearance. Watch my weight, keep my nails nice and so forth.
We recently moved. It was over the top exhausting. Plus, my autoimmune stuff went into high gear. I was already on prednisone and gained about ten pounds. When I moved, I got sicker and the Local doctor doubled the dosage. Omg. Between the stress and this medication from hexx I gained a ton of weight. I’m short, so it really shows.
A friend asked if her and her husband could spend the weekend at our house. I said ok. They are very nice, from another state and wanted a mini vacation.
One night we went to dinner. I was saddened that the dress I had to wear was a little tight on me. But, I figured being with friends was more important and I put it on and let it go.
All of a sudden she announces she would like some photos. I told her the medication has caused weight gain and I’m actually avoiding photos for the time being. She strongly insisted. So, I said how about one or two from the waist up. She said that was silly. She really pushed and I caved ...but kept in saying “very few please.” She had her husband take photos and then she took some of my husband and I.
I didn’t realize it, but many many photos were taken.
Later when she got home, she texted me many of these photos. Perhaps 15. I didn’t realize so many were taken. I actually look much worse than I thought.
She asked me if the photos looked ok. I told her the truth...they actually looked worse than I thought they would. My face is distorted with a bit of a steroid Moon face, belly swelling, overweight. Etc.
She said nonsense...I had on a pretty dress and my hair looked great. ????
She said to show them to my husband. (That kinda ticked me off) He took a quick look and said we both look kinda bad.
She recently lost weight and had a face lift. She looks great. In some of the photos she is almost posing with her hand on her waist.
I have never looked so poorly in my life.
I never replied to her text. I think I was suppose to narrow down the pics I liked best. I hate all of them because to me I look sickly.
I have not replied to her text.
Another friend told me that she was being inconsiderate.
Boils down to the same question that keeps haunting me...you don’t give up friends just because they act like a jerk at one point in time.
I think she is being a jerk. Am I right? Very inconsiderate. They never should of been taken in the first place. I don’t think I should or will give up the friendship over this...but I won’t firget it either and of course it won’t take many more inconsiderate moves to make me change my mind. I hope it doesn’t come to that.
What the hexx is wrong with people???
Good news...I’m on a new medication, tapering from prednisone and both my husband and I have started Weight Watchers.
Thoughts?
PS since this is very personal in nature there is a small chance I might ask for this thread to be removed down the road.
I normally am fastidious with my appearance. Watch my weight, keep my nails nice and so forth.
We recently moved. It was over the top exhausting. Plus, my autoimmune stuff went into high gear. I was already on prednisone and gained about ten pounds. When I moved, I got sicker and the Local doctor doubled the dosage. Omg. Between the stress and this medication from hexx I gained a ton of weight. I’m short, so it really shows.
A friend asked if her and her husband could spend the weekend at our house. I said ok. They are very nice, from another state and wanted a mini vacation.
One night we went to dinner. I was saddened that the dress I had to wear was a little tight on me. But, I figured being with friends was more important and I put it on and let it go.
All of a sudden she announces she would like some photos. I told her the medication has caused weight gain and I’m actually avoiding photos for the time being. She strongly insisted. So, I said how about one or two from the waist up. She said that was silly. She really pushed and I caved ...but kept in saying “very few please.” She had her husband take photos and then she took some of my husband and I.
I didn’t realize it, but many many photos were taken.
Later when she got home, she texted me many of these photos. Perhaps 15. I didn’t realize so many were taken. I actually look much worse than I thought.
She asked me if the photos looked ok. I told her the truth...they actually looked worse than I thought they would. My face is distorted with a bit of a steroid Moon face, belly swelling, overweight. Etc.
She said nonsense...I had on a pretty dress and my hair looked great. ????
She said to show them to my husband. (That kinda ticked me off) He took a quick look and said we both look kinda bad.
She recently lost weight and had a face lift. She looks great. In some of the photos she is almost posing with her hand on her waist.
I have never looked so poorly in my life.
I never replied to her text. I think I was suppose to narrow down the pics I liked best. I hate all of them because to me I look sickly.
I have not replied to her text.
Another friend told me that she was being inconsiderate.
Boils down to the same question that keeps haunting me...you don’t give up friends just because they act like a jerk at one point in time.
I think she is being a jerk. Am I right? Very inconsiderate. They never should of been taken in the first place. I don’t think I should or will give up the friendship over this...but I won’t firget it either and of course it won’t take many more inconsiderate moves to make me change my mind. I hope it doesn’t come to that.
What the hexx is wrong with people???
Good news...I’m on a new medication, tapering from prednisone and both my husband and I have started Weight Watchers.
Thoughts?
PS since this is very personal in nature there is a small chance I might ask for this thread to be removed down the road.