Her bio-dad has been diagnosed with some sort of personality disorder, and I know his mother has always had issues with depression. Her bio-dad has abused drugs for as long as I have known him, which was the ultimate reason behind our divorce. He has never played a consistent role in her life in any way.
My (now) husbands company offers an Employee Assistance Program, which I took her to a family therapist through. We only had 2 visits with her, which were free through this program, and then decided to try and find someone in-network with our insurance to save $. Anyway, this woman was leaning more toward anxiety than add, or adhd. Which seems to make sense.
Kay has always been "difficult" but things have definitely gotten worse through triggers like her little sister being born, and when her bio dad did live here extreme anxiety to go stay with him, or his family (I think more because she didnt want to be away from me, than she didnt want to see them).
We have had some issues with abuse in the form of verbal and some physical that she has witnessed with her step-father and I's relationship, which we have successfully worked through, but may still be affecting her. There is a lot of tension as you can imagine because she just flat out doesnt listen, is argumentative, and careless and unfortunately her step father has run out of patience for this behavior.
In the end I know that she needs some counseling as does everyone in the house to really work through the issues that are driving her behavior, as well as to find some parenting strategies that will help us all better cope with her behavior when she has a flare up.
She is an otherwise very bright little girl, has always done well in school (with the exception of her teacher this year telling me she is disruptive and always talking). She has problems finishing her classwork and often has to bring it home, but not because she doesnt know how to complete it, it is just hard for her to stay focused.
I am still looking for a healthcare provider that can help us, its been a bit frustrating and Im thinking about taking her to a pediatrician to get a physical and rule out any medical problems that way and hopefully get a referral from him.
On other subjects this morning was a breeze, we picked out her clothes last night, made sure she had a bath the night before, I gave her lots of love and helped her with her times tables the night before.
Sorry so long winded...