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I haven't been on for a while - I am sorry I haven't been following the posts. There have been other health crises in my familiy that I have been focusing on.
My son has been doing pretty well for a time (he is 11), but started getting in a bad place again about a week ago. When I say bad place, I mean that he is extra defiant every day and on the verge of blow ups the whole day, every day (does this happen to anyone else? - the cyclical thing?) He got violent on Wednesday and punched me hard in the face, giving me a bloody lip. When something like this happens, you realize the severity that you are living in an abusive situation. I haven't felt safe for a while, as he is getting big and strong, but he has periods of time where he is fairly upbeat and ok.
Many things have come together for us getting help for him, though it has taken a while. We have great support at his new middle school - he has a wonderful resource worker and an educational plan in place. I'm so grateful for these things. We recently got him a psychiatrist (for the first time) and a psychotherapist. We have been waiting to hear back from the psychiatrist a diagnosis, though before he reviewed all the info we gave him, he guessed that it could be mild bipolar. (it doesn't feel mild to me!) The day after I got my bloody lip, we made an apt with the psychiatrist. Unfortunately, our son refused to go (my husband could not force him). So my husband wanted to talk to the dr over the phone instead. Unfortunately, the doctor didn't call back. I really hope to get a hold of him this week so we can get our kid on medication and get him more of the help he needs.
This is so exhausting and draining - - and everyone else in the family (husband, me, dog) have gotten pretty physically sick with different issues and I believe it's a result of the impact of living with a child who is defiant, angry and violent.
Hoping that help comes soon.
I am very fortunate to be getting some wonderful prayer support at my church. They are amazing and loving and have been a life-saver.
I struggle with loving him and being loving.
Me - 40, wiped out
husband - sick
dog - sick
difficult child - Age 11, huge anger issues, no diagnosis yet (came into our home at age 3), adopted
My son has been doing pretty well for a time (he is 11), but started getting in a bad place again about a week ago. When I say bad place, I mean that he is extra defiant every day and on the verge of blow ups the whole day, every day (does this happen to anyone else? - the cyclical thing?) He got violent on Wednesday and punched me hard in the face, giving me a bloody lip. When something like this happens, you realize the severity that you are living in an abusive situation. I haven't felt safe for a while, as he is getting big and strong, but he has periods of time where he is fairly upbeat and ok.
Many things have come together for us getting help for him, though it has taken a while. We have great support at his new middle school - he has a wonderful resource worker and an educational plan in place. I'm so grateful for these things. We recently got him a psychiatrist (for the first time) and a psychotherapist. We have been waiting to hear back from the psychiatrist a diagnosis, though before he reviewed all the info we gave him, he guessed that it could be mild bipolar. (it doesn't feel mild to me!) The day after I got my bloody lip, we made an apt with the psychiatrist. Unfortunately, our son refused to go (my husband could not force him). So my husband wanted to talk to the dr over the phone instead. Unfortunately, the doctor didn't call back. I really hope to get a hold of him this week so we can get our kid on medication and get him more of the help he needs.
This is so exhausting and draining - - and everyone else in the family (husband, me, dog) have gotten pretty physically sick with different issues and I believe it's a result of the impact of living with a child who is defiant, angry and violent.
Hoping that help comes soon.
I am very fortunate to be getting some wonderful prayer support at my church. They are amazing and loving and have been a life-saver.
I struggle with loving him and being loving.
Me - 40, wiped out
husband - sick
dog - sick
difficult child - Age 11, huge anger issues, no diagnosis yet (came into our home at age 3), adopted