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toughlovin
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Gosh it is so much harder to take the tough stand when you hear their voice on the other end of the phone! When I asked him how he was doing he said he was "defeated". He went back to the program (which is about an hour away by car and I have no idea how he got there) and they told him they would not consider taking him back until he was in a drug tx prgoram for at least 30 days! Good for them!! So he was calling Occupational Therapist (OT) ask me what insurance would cover. I told him I didn't know he would have to call the insurance co.
I also told him his dad had been laid off and that money was tight (he was shocked at that news) and so we could not consider paying for the progam at least until his dad got a job. (OK I totally wimped out on totally saying NO and being a hard a**). I told him to call me back in a couple of hours so I could give him the number of the guy I know where he is.
I did talk to this friend (actually son of a close family friend) who was really helpful. I am going to give difficult child his number and let him give him a bit of guidance. He has been through all of this, serious drug addict, did time in prison etc. etc. all the worse of what our difficult children has done and he has turned his life around and is clean and sober and has been working in this area for quite a while. He knows the places out there. My difficult child will not be able to fool him like he fools me!!! And he is willing to kind of be the go between, help guide difficult child towards help without it being me who is saving him. If that makes sense.
So at least I know he is alive and at least today is looking for help.
TL
I also told him his dad had been laid off and that money was tight (he was shocked at that news) and so we could not consider paying for the progam at least until his dad got a job. (OK I totally wimped out on totally saying NO and being a hard a**). I told him to call me back in a couple of hours so I could give him the number of the guy I know where he is.
I did talk to this friend (actually son of a close family friend) who was really helpful. I am going to give difficult child his number and let him give him a bit of guidance. He has been through all of this, serious drug addict, did time in prison etc. etc. all the worse of what our difficult children has done and he has turned his life around and is clean and sober and has been working in this area for quite a while. He knows the places out there. My difficult child will not be able to fool him like he fools me!!! And he is willing to kind of be the go between, help guide difficult child towards help without it being me who is saving him. If that makes sense.
So at least I know he is alive and at least today is looking for help.
TL