BusynMember
Well-Known Member
I have no idea where you live.
It sounds like a horrible state for kids in trouble. I know I mentioned this before, and forgot why you said you couldn't do it, but if it were me nothing could keep me in that state. Nothing. I would research states that allowed kids to decide custody at an early age and got there...and make sure it was far away. If necessary, I'd go to a domestic abuse shelter so t hey could help me find a place to live and a job, but I would not let my child go with that man. It is much harder for him to go after you if you are in another state with other laws. Sixteen before he can decide? CPS won't do anything? Here the age is twelve. I've never hard of a state that made a child wait until age sixteen.
Again, I know you said you couldn't do it. I don't see any other option. Otherwise, somebody is going to get hurt. Badly. And I don't want it to be your little boy. Or you. He sounds extremely dangerous and good at hiding it from other people. But your son knows. It is ruining his life.
I would make sure ex didn't know where I went to when I left. I won't say it ever again, but felt it was worth repeating. otherwise, it seems hopeless.
It sounds like a horrible state for kids in trouble. I know I mentioned this before, and forgot why you said you couldn't do it, but if it were me nothing could keep me in that state. Nothing. I would research states that allowed kids to decide custody at an early age and got there...and make sure it was far away. If necessary, I'd go to a domestic abuse shelter so t hey could help me find a place to live and a job, but I would not let my child go with that man. It is much harder for him to go after you if you are in another state with other laws. Sixteen before he can decide? CPS won't do anything? Here the age is twelve. I've never hard of a state that made a child wait until age sixteen.
Again, I know you said you couldn't do it. I don't see any other option. Otherwise, somebody is going to get hurt. Badly. And I don't want it to be your little boy. Or you. He sounds extremely dangerous and good at hiding it from other people. But your son knows. It is ruining his life.
I would make sure ex didn't know where I went to when I left. I won't say it ever again, but felt it was worth repeating. otherwise, it seems hopeless.