Cinderella's Momma
New Member
I need suggestions if anyone has them. My difficult child informed me that she has no friends at school. At recess she plays by herself because no one will play with her. One boy, who tends to be a bully, allows her to play one game with him each day, but that's it. No one else will play with her. :crying:
I am presuming that this has to do with her bossiness and anger issues, but it has never been an issue before this year. This year, however, only the 2nd graders and 3rd graders (her grade) share a lunch/recess and I know that she has friends that are in K and some that are older. She has always, usually, done better with kids younger than her or older than her.
A couple of girls who used to be her girlfriends that were/are her babysitters kids, are now telling her that she is not their friend and one of them has been telling other people that my daughter hit her (which, unfortunately, she did), so that other kids won't play with her.
She told me last night that she was stupid and that's why kids won't play with her. I tried to comfort her and I told her she's not stupid, of course, but I know she doesn't understand, and frankly, neither do I.
I don't remember kids being this hurtful at this age. I mean even the bullys have friends, so why can't my difficult child? She is bossy and she does throw things and hit when she gets angry, and I know that is an issue, but I also know that she doesn't know how to control it yet. She does have one friend at school who likes her and likes to come over to our house, but it is my understanding that she usually plays with other friends who do not like my difficult child at school. I know my difficult child has a good heart, it's just that she has so many issues due to the ADHD and ODD and with- her dad being in jail.
This being friendless is causing her anger to upgrade as well. Just in the last week she rammed our screen door and so now it is totally ruined and has to be replaced; she broke the door on our entertainment center and has done other numerous little things. She has friends that we see on occassion that don't go to her school, but she needs friends at school, obviously. I have emailed the teacher and the guidance counselor, but I don't know what else to do.
I am so worried about my poor baby. She is such a social butterfly that this is really hurting her bad and I don't know how to fix it! :sad:
I am presuming that this has to do with her bossiness and anger issues, but it has never been an issue before this year. This year, however, only the 2nd graders and 3rd graders (her grade) share a lunch/recess and I know that she has friends that are in K and some that are older. She has always, usually, done better with kids younger than her or older than her.
A couple of girls who used to be her girlfriends that were/are her babysitters kids, are now telling her that she is not their friend and one of them has been telling other people that my daughter hit her (which, unfortunately, she did), so that other kids won't play with her.
She told me last night that she was stupid and that's why kids won't play with her. I tried to comfort her and I told her she's not stupid, of course, but I know she doesn't understand, and frankly, neither do I.
I don't remember kids being this hurtful at this age. I mean even the bullys have friends, so why can't my difficult child? She is bossy and she does throw things and hit when she gets angry, and I know that is an issue, but I also know that she doesn't know how to control it yet. She does have one friend at school who likes her and likes to come over to our house, but it is my understanding that she usually plays with other friends who do not like my difficult child at school. I know my difficult child has a good heart, it's just that she has so many issues due to the ADHD and ODD and with- her dad being in jail.
This being friendless is causing her anger to upgrade as well. Just in the last week she rammed our screen door and so now it is totally ruined and has to be replaced; she broke the door on our entertainment center and has done other numerous little things. She has friends that we see on occassion that don't go to her school, but she needs friends at school, obviously. I have emailed the teacher and the guidance counselor, but I don't know what else to do.
I am so worried about my poor baby. She is such a social butterfly that this is really hurting her bad and I don't know how to fix it! :sad: