I wanted to say hello, and tell you I've been there done that. It is hard trying out medications, and dealing with- aggressive behaviors. Reading through your thread, brought back memories and tears. My oldest is very aggressive, and has hit, kicked, bitten me and family, therapists, strangers, other kids etc. more times than I can count. I know how tiring and exausting life like that is. When my oldest was little, almost 3, he went into a 4 hr. long tantrum/ meltdown, and I called my mom for help.. she didn't know what to do... we wound up taking him to the hospital he was so out of control. He ripped the closet door right off the hinges, and it almost fell right on top of him! This was just the beginning.
It is painful to talk about my oldest, his problems are pretty severe, but I basically just wanted to let you know that I've been there, and I understand how frustrating, tiring and challenging this is. I am thinking of you and your son, and I wish the best for you all on this journey. You are a caring mom, and only want the best for him, and it sounds like you are doing everything you can. Hang in there!