Now that I finally found where to put this. I apologize if you see this in one or two other places. Hello all! I need help, solace, and sanity. I feel like I am completely drowning. The following are pretty much my daily emotions I have a special needs son. He's a one of a kind being born with half a heart and he has so many other problems, diseases, disabilities. Then 3 years ago he was diagnosed (diagnosis) with ADHD and now recently he was diagnosis with ODD. Don't get me wrong, I am proud to know my son is a fighter and survivor. Especially after having had a stroke at 2 1/2 year old and not giving up or giving in. He's my little Superman. But to top it off his ODD is getting completely out of control. A friend of mine who now lives over 3 hours away has a son with ODD as well and she has given me more and better suggestions than the therapists. But it's still just not enough. What's worse is that I am now fighting for full custody because his disney dad is rarely involved if at all. Yet he still is fighting to keep shared custody when he lives half the nation away. It breaks my heart that he is not more involved with our son and that he continues to break our son's heart. I'm just at my wit's end! Today he tried to act like he was dictator of the house. Trying to boss us around. Of course it didn't work but he still remained demanding. I surely corrected him but it never sets in. I also explained what happend to a certain "dictator" we all know who is now 6ft. under. I didn't tell him that that was what would happen to him but I did tell him that people don't take to kindly to people, especially children trying to dictate what others are to do. I know he needs more of my time but I just don't know how to squeeze much out. I have so much on my plate that if I took anything off my plate I might lose the little bit of sanity I have been left to cling onto all these years. I have almost lost him so many times in so many ways. But I dare say this is almost worse than going through him have had his stroke. I can't even get him to really co-operate with me to get his homework done. And now our nurse is quitting at the end of the month because he has become abusive toward her every morning when he is supposed to be getting ready. He's been awful before but this school year takes the cake - big time. To top it off my ex tells my son's gaurdian et litem that my son is basically an angel when he is out there. Hello! Duh! Disney Dad! This summer was the first time he's seen his dad in 2 years and he was there for 4 weeks. Now that he's back home he's only heard from his dad maybe 6 times and he's been home since mid july. The man complained when child support was raised - but he wasn't even paying 17% of his income. And I am sorry if you're not going to be there for you child or even support your child emotionally then buddy you better believe you're resposible to at least support him financially. Added injury - I was in a car accident last spring and almost died 2 times. Let me tell you my son made me a believer in the power of prayer a long time ago and this definately renewed that belief. But I still need help with the ODD.