If your school is not cooperative, and due to costs and the hassels of special rules for one child, they don't like to, be sure to have an Advocate with you when you go in. Call your state's Dept. of Education and ask for the person in charge of Special Needs. I've done this many times. The Advocate is free, will meet with you, and is on your child's side, not the school district's side and will show some teeth. Many school districts bully parents into signing for less than their child needs and that's not fair for the child. You have to have a strong personality to take on a school district and even then I think an advocate helps. It took me several tries to force our school district to taxi cab my Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) son to another public school nearby that suited his needs. I have never heard of anyone, at least in my area, sent to a private school, but many are sent to more suitable public schools and each state is probably different. My son got a good education an d is exceeding the expectations professionals had of him when we adopted him as in "He will just b e a vegetable. There is nothing we can do for THESE kids!!!" Ugh. He is now living alone and is 90% self-supporting and, most of all, is happy. He was exposed to his birthmother's drugs in utero so I guess they all thought he'd have Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS), but he has autism, probably caused by that, but no symptoms of Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS). Haha, Professionals
Often it is a fight to get what you know your child needs that's why I highly recommend not to go in alone. Even when I went with husband, in two states (Illinois first, then Wisconsin) my son's needs were sugarcoated until I took in our advocate Ms. Teeth, who was known for taking school distracts to court and winning. That scared our administrators into not breaking the disability laws. Nobody wanted to mess with her. My son got everything he needed. Didn't cost us a nickle.
It's sad that sometimes we have to go to lengths to get what our children deserve, but that's often a reality.
On the homework front, my son was sent to a study hall for kids who needed extra help and he did his homework there. It was recommended by OUR professionals that he not have to do homework AT HOME as his autism makes it hard for him to extend the school day. This worked out perfectly, but not all schools have this sort of study hall, which he greatly liked and could pretty much complete his homework in on his own just knowing a teacher was at hand. This was one reason we switched his schools and they also had a very good Special Education department so they understood his particular needs and he had a very good school experience and even was well liked amongst his typical peers. Find your advocate. Every district has one, but the school district won't telll you about it. They don't like advocates so you have to dig yourself.
Good luck.