Hi. My name is Karen and I am new to this site. I am currently an Army wife with two children going through my first deployment. My daughter (8 yrs old) was diagnosed with ODD about a year ago. Since being diagnosed, things have only gotten worse. The only thing told to me by the doctor who diagnosed her was to keep doing what I have been doing and just get through. There has got to be a better way!!!!! The tantrums last for hours. I have a 4 month old son and he gets scared when she screams and throws fits (obviously). I try and keep her to her room when she does scream and what not but she gets no satisfaction from this so she opens her door and screams louder or has even followed me just to scream or bangs on my door when I have went in there and shut the door with the baby to keep him from hearing so much. I just dont know what else to do. I have simple rules that she just cant or wont follow and when we go through the consequences she puts up a fight saying I am being unfair. Or that I hate her or are just simply being mean. Of coarse I explain to her that I dont hate her just dont like the way she is acting and I dont want to seem mean but rules if not followed have consequences. Since my husband deployed with me being 7 months pregnant, I went home to stay with my mother to have the baby. My daughter and her actions have had many consequences for me and my whole family. I ended up having to leave my mothers house per her request due to my daughters behavior and tantrums. So I moved in with a friend that stated that she totally understood the way children could be until I could get the money to fly back home (Germany, not a cheap ticket). Same situation happened. Needless to say we are no longer associated with one another. I just feel so alone and I need to get answers. Any help comments or advice will be appreciated.