I don't even know where to start. I haven't posted here in a long time. My 9 year old difficult child is a total puzzle to me. Maybe I have been in denial the last 5 years. He has been on medication from the age of 5 when we adopted him. He has been diagnosed with ADHD, ODD and possible Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD). The last year has really been an eye opener. He goes to his psyciatrist every 3 months for a medicine check up, we tried therapy a few years ago but got nowhere. He is currently on Adderal XR, Risperdal and Kapvay (the new clonodine). He has no friends, he has failed 1st grade twice and 2nd grade once, the way things are looking in 3rd grade right now (all F's except for a C in math), he will be "placed" to the next grade again next year. We are a very loving and giving family who has given him everything he needs and wants. He doesn't seem to have any "real" feelings. He will hug and kiss but I don't feel that it is genuine. We had problems with him stealing over the summer from a "friend" down the street, $300 in cash. Stealing from his older brother, something is always missing. There have been a few sexual situations with a friend last year and 2 other not definate ones. We have caught him in a compromising position with one of the family pets. Last week at school he told all the kids that another boy had put his penis in his behind. When difficult child was confronted by the teacher he said it wasn't true. Teacher says she will look into what she needs to do next. We have been talking with him at home an it is like pulling teeth on this subject. We told him we need to know more so we can help him. He told us tonite that he has done this with the 2 other boys (his age) that we had suspected. When asked if anyone has ever shown him or done this to him before he says no. Two weeks ago we were going somewhere he didn't want to go so he slammed the door and ran. I told him to "get over here". We were outside and he starts screaming at the top of his lungs "Don't hit me, don't hit me! for all of the neighbors to hear. I was speechless. We have never spanked him. When I read all of the symptoms of Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) and Psycopath, he definately fits. My husband and I don't know what our next step is. We have finally come to the conclusion that most people would call him "damaged goods". We love him dearly and he has never hurt any of the people in our family. Like I said, maybe I am in denial because he can function every day and there aren't hardly any "melt downs" any more but now the things he does seem to be alot more serious. He is like he doesn't have a concience. I need advise on what to do next. When I let his doctor know about the things that he does, he just records them in his records. If I tell him that I don't think the medication he's on his helping, he gives me suggestions to research to see what one to put him on next. We just switched from Intuniv to Kapvay. This situation is definately affecting my 16 year old. He had never had anxiety before and a few weeks ago he had it severely and missed two weeks of school. Any suggestions, advise would be much appreciated. Since yall have much experience on what I am dealing with, please let me know if I am being to lax on what we should be doing. Thank You.