Indianamomof4
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<span style="color: #6633FF"> </span> My significant other found this website and sent it to me. Wow, I can't wait to dig in and read about all of you to see if I might find some answers.
I'm a divorce mom of 4, live with my significant other, have a pretty content life. I work full time for a university, teach for them part time, and am finishing up doctoral classes for my Ph.D. in education.
My kids are pretty typical, but my 8 year old is, well, I am not too sure what to say about him right now. He's been challenging from the moment he exited the womb. I'm searching for help with him as my ex husband thinks he may not have ADHD. I think he does, and may even suffer from ODD. The problem is that he's almost solely ODD with me. I try so hard to work with him. He cannot take any stimulant medications, as they make him act psychotic and cause him not to eat. He's currently on Straterra, 25mg. I don't see a huge difference in his ability to calm down and focus, but it's helping slightly. My exdh wants a re-evaluation from another pediatrician.
I'm trying different things with him, but most have not worked at all. Things he does:
1. Freaks out when things don't fit/feel right. Can't wear long sleeves, or some textures. Has issues with clothes fitting "just right" and feeling "just right".
2. Reacts quickly and excessively when he is upset, hurt, etc. and does not behave "normally" in social situations if he is not happy.
3. Refuses to do what I ask of him most times, regardless of the consequence he might face.
4. Has tantrums unexpectedly and randomly. We all walk on egg shells most days as we don't know what will set him off.
5. His older brother antagonizes it and makes it much worse than it has to be :frown:
6. He always says he's ugly, that no one likes him, that I don't like him as much as the other kids.
7. He is distructive and incredibly impulsive.
That's just a list I came up with quickly. He is seeing a psychiatrist twice a month, but so far I see little improvement in his behavior. We actually had a great morning for the first time in a long time, so I'm feeling good. What was different is that he asked to be released from his punishment of no playing with his friend in the neighborhood and no videogames. He's been punished for almost two weeks. I told him he would get them back if he makes better choices. I reminded him when he asked last night that he would have to prove to me today that he could make the right choices about how he acts both at home and at school. I kept reminding him when I asked him to brush his teeth/get dressed/ get out of bed, etc. It worked. Today... :whew:
I'm a divorce mom of 4, live with my significant other, have a pretty content life. I work full time for a university, teach for them part time, and am finishing up doctoral classes for my Ph.D. in education.
My kids are pretty typical, but my 8 year old is, well, I am not too sure what to say about him right now. He's been challenging from the moment he exited the womb. I'm searching for help with him as my ex husband thinks he may not have ADHD. I think he does, and may even suffer from ODD. The problem is that he's almost solely ODD with me. I try so hard to work with him. He cannot take any stimulant medications, as they make him act psychotic and cause him not to eat. He's currently on Straterra, 25mg. I don't see a huge difference in his ability to calm down and focus, but it's helping slightly. My exdh wants a re-evaluation from another pediatrician.
I'm trying different things with him, but most have not worked at all. Things he does:
1. Freaks out when things don't fit/feel right. Can't wear long sleeves, or some textures. Has issues with clothes fitting "just right" and feeling "just right".
2. Reacts quickly and excessively when he is upset, hurt, etc. and does not behave "normally" in social situations if he is not happy.
3. Refuses to do what I ask of him most times, regardless of the consequence he might face.
4. Has tantrums unexpectedly and randomly. We all walk on egg shells most days as we don't know what will set him off.
5. His older brother antagonizes it and makes it much worse than it has to be :frown:
6. He always says he's ugly, that no one likes him, that I don't like him as much as the other kids.
7. He is distructive and incredibly impulsive.
That's just a list I came up with quickly. He is seeing a psychiatrist twice a month, but so far I see little improvement in his behavior. We actually had a great morning for the first time in a long time, so I'm feeling good. What was different is that he asked to be released from his punishment of no playing with his friend in the neighborhood and no videogames. He's been punished for almost two weeks. I told him he would get them back if he makes better choices. I reminded him when he asked last night that he would have to prove to me today that he could make the right choices about how he acts both at home and at school. I kept reminding him when I asked him to brush his teeth/get dressed/ get out of bed, etc. It worked. Today... :whew: