hopingforamircle
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Hello. I am new here and looking for some support. My child is 3 1/2 and he has had behaviors for a long time. For some time people were saying well it's the early terrible 2's then it was the terrible 2's and now just that it's normal for his age. But he is diagnosed Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD)-not otherwise specified but mild. The developmental pedi thinks its possible ADHD she even asked if Bipolar is in the family.
He gets into these moods even though we praise him like crazy when he is good even the smallest thing he does we praise him up and down. He just is angry, we tried for so long to find out what triggers the behavior and try to avoid situations that get him angry but it doesnt work. He started standing in one place after glaring at me or someone else in the family, whether we ask him nicely not to do something or whatever it is that makes him mad he will stand there holding grudges for long periods of time. The behavioral specialist told me to ignore the behavior but he will stand there forever. He now started acting like he cant dress himself, or put shoes on when he is mad at any of us and he knows how to help himself. I have to do hand over hand dressing him etc because if it's cold i can't have my child walking outside with no shoes on because he refuses to do anything when he is mad. He turns his mood around when someone visits us it's an instant anger to a happy go lucky child. Then when they leave he starts looking straight in my eyes laughing/ giggling and smirking. He started doing this and saying aint i cute? He will not look at me for reasons he is mad then hug someone else and laugh at me and say aint i cute. I tried time-out and he would cry and i wouldnt approach him until he stopped crying, he would even say sorry but not now, he refuses to say sorry and he refuses to do self-help things when he is angry at me I ask him if hes sorry and he turns around in his seat and faces the wall he would rather stay in time-out. At evaluations he acts cute and behaves so well and whoever the evaluator is just feeds into it and tells me how much he improved and she only saw him for an hour then starts babying him, i live with him.
My question is does anyone deal with behaviors that seem impossible to fix? I don't think it's impossible but it seems that way Know what I mean?? He likes time-outs he will just stare at his hand he could careless. He is demanding and thinks everyone caters to him too and if they arent then watch out you get the "if looks can kill" look. If you cater to him and treat him like he's the only one in the world he's fine with you, but sometimes that doesnt even work. I just don't know what to do with him.
If you give time-out and your child usually says sorry but wont say sorry anymore after time-out what should you do, just ignore it?
He gets into these moods even though we praise him like crazy when he is good even the smallest thing he does we praise him up and down. He just is angry, we tried for so long to find out what triggers the behavior and try to avoid situations that get him angry but it doesnt work. He started standing in one place after glaring at me or someone else in the family, whether we ask him nicely not to do something or whatever it is that makes him mad he will stand there holding grudges for long periods of time. The behavioral specialist told me to ignore the behavior but he will stand there forever. He now started acting like he cant dress himself, or put shoes on when he is mad at any of us and he knows how to help himself. I have to do hand over hand dressing him etc because if it's cold i can't have my child walking outside with no shoes on because he refuses to do anything when he is mad. He turns his mood around when someone visits us it's an instant anger to a happy go lucky child. Then when they leave he starts looking straight in my eyes laughing/ giggling and smirking. He started doing this and saying aint i cute? He will not look at me for reasons he is mad then hug someone else and laugh at me and say aint i cute. I tried time-out and he would cry and i wouldnt approach him until he stopped crying, he would even say sorry but not now, he refuses to say sorry and he refuses to do self-help things when he is angry at me I ask him if hes sorry and he turns around in his seat and faces the wall he would rather stay in time-out. At evaluations he acts cute and behaves so well and whoever the evaluator is just feeds into it and tells me how much he improved and she only saw him for an hour then starts babying him, i live with him.
My question is does anyone deal with behaviors that seem impossible to fix? I don't think it's impossible but it seems that way Know what I mean?? He likes time-outs he will just stare at his hand he could careless. He is demanding and thinks everyone caters to him too and if they arent then watch out you get the "if looks can kill" look. If you cater to him and treat him like he's the only one in the world he's fine with you, but sometimes that doesnt even work. I just don't know what to do with him.
If you give time-out and your child usually says sorry but wont say sorry anymore after time-out what should you do, just ignore it?