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natalieoh
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Hi ladies, well my difficult child who dropped out of high school this year, his senior year decided in March he could not take living with us anymore. He had been so belligerent, defiant of all rules and was back to taking drugs. He had been in 3 month facilities for this twice and years of therapy and medications. To make a long story short, we funded his going into an apartment for six months and got him a car with money his grandmother willed to him for his future. He sold the car after wrecking it and is living off the money from that. He has no job and was living with a guy and my son's girlfriend.
He almost got evicted a month ago for the smell of pot from his apartment, being mean to the neighbors and not paying his utilities. Wednesday his roommate ticked off someone and they broke all the windows in the apartment in retaliation. His landlord called us to tell us he would be evicting our son this week. He had not paid his utilities and has continued to bring unsavory people to his place.
My husband and I decided not to warn our son since this is his issue. He turns 19 in a month and he does not want our involvement. Well after getting the notice from his landlord he is being evicted and that we knew of this and didn't tell him, he went off on me in the ugliest text I have ever gotten from him. Called me names that rhyme with punt, said I was dead to him forever and on and on.
Ladies I honestly cannot take his meanness and inappropriate rageful reactions when he doesn't get his way. How the &*^% do I live with this? I mean emotionally, how do I get passed the hurt and trauma I have endured with him. I do not plan to contact him until he ever decides to grow up and take charge of his life. I am so traumatized by the countless time he went off on bankers, doctors, school personnel and on and on that I cannot ever be with him in public again.
So I am staying far away and not engaging. No he hasn't contacted me nor will I hear from him unless he gets desperate. My plan is to not respond to him, but how does my heart ever heal from this? Do your hearts heal? What do you do with the ache inside?
Thank you so much
Natalie
He almost got evicted a month ago for the smell of pot from his apartment, being mean to the neighbors and not paying his utilities. Wednesday his roommate ticked off someone and they broke all the windows in the apartment in retaliation. His landlord called us to tell us he would be evicting our son this week. He had not paid his utilities and has continued to bring unsavory people to his place.
My husband and I decided not to warn our son since this is his issue. He turns 19 in a month and he does not want our involvement. Well after getting the notice from his landlord he is being evicted and that we knew of this and didn't tell him, he went off on me in the ugliest text I have ever gotten from him. Called me names that rhyme with punt, said I was dead to him forever and on and on.
Ladies I honestly cannot take his meanness and inappropriate rageful reactions when he doesn't get his way. How the &*^% do I live with this? I mean emotionally, how do I get passed the hurt and trauma I have endured with him. I do not plan to contact him until he ever decides to grow up and take charge of his life. I am so traumatized by the countless time he went off on bankers, doctors, school personnel and on and on that I cannot ever be with him in public again.
So I am staying far away and not engaging. No he hasn't contacted me nor will I hear from him unless he gets desperate. My plan is to not respond to him, but how does my heart ever heal from this? Do your hearts heal? What do you do with the ache inside?
Thank you so much
Natalie