mstang67chic
Going Green
....when difficult child eats anything and everything whenever he wants???? He has no regard for anything around here....rules, us, food.....NOTHING.
He's always had issues with food, always. At one time, long before we got him, I think his issues with food and hoarding was self preservation. Bio mom would lock him and his sibs in their rooms for hours. I understand this and understand why he would hoard food. That's not the issue now. The issue now is that he seems to think anything and everything is his to eat. Doesn't matter if he knows it's not his (doggy bag from restaurant), doesn't matter if he's been told not to eat it because it's for something specific. If he decides he wants it or decides he's hungry, he eats it.
He ate cookie dough till he was full, let the dog knaw on it and gave me some bull story about how the dog OPENED THE FRIG and got it out.
I had a frozen pumpkin roll in the freezer. I found it in his room in a desk drawer.
I buy duplicates of things that I need for something because I know he'll want it. I TELL him..this one is MINE....this one is YOURS. He consumes both without batting an eye.
I buy a bag of chicken patties from the Schwan guy. It's gone in a DAY.
This is a pattern with him...always has been.
Today I was at my dad's. difficult child calls me and asks if I'm going to pick something up for supper on my way home. I said yes because while I wasn't grabbing the almighty McD's, I would be getting some milk and something thawed out to cook. I get home and he had fixed himself an ENTIRE freaking bag of Schwans french fries. THE ENTIRE @#$%^&*( BAG.
Alrighty then. Guess I don't have to cook tonight because he is NOT eathing another *&^%$# thing.
I am not working. My unemployment has run out. I have a couple of hundred bucks left on my unemployment card for groceries for 2 adults, a walking garbage disposal, 2 dogs, 1 inside cat and the strays that I feed as cheap as possible. It would be one thing if he ate all that he fixed or got into but he doesn't. He eats what he wants, pitches the rest, leaves it open to get stale, leaves it out to rot or whatever. I don't have the money to supply him with all the carap he wants. I'll fix a good meal for dinner. He'll have a chicken pattie or 20.
(OMG at this point I want a cigarrette soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo bad.)
I want him out of this house and I want him out NOW. husband says he's working on it. Uh huh. WTH??? We have less than 2 months until the semester is over. The school is bending over backwards to get difficult child graduated because this is his THIRD attempt at it and he only has SIX classes to pass. SIX!!! husband is out of town for work and called me on break. I relayed a brief rant to him and delcared my desire to have an empty bedroom in the house. This was when he said he's working on it. He says he's working on getting difficult child into a group home which is actually what I want for him also. But when I asked husband what his plans were when difficult child refuses to do this, husband, in all his brilliant genius says that difficult child CAN'T refuse.
WHAT?????
The boy is 19. He's his own guardian. He can do (or not do) whatever the %$#$# he wants legally. He's already declared that he is not doing the group home. It's for "retards" and he's not one.
Honestly, I can't see husband throwing difficult child out. There's always a reason why we can't. He needs to graduate, it's cold, it's Wednesday, he doesn't have a place to go....blah blah blah.
All I can say is that SOMEONE will be leaving.
He's always had issues with food, always. At one time, long before we got him, I think his issues with food and hoarding was self preservation. Bio mom would lock him and his sibs in their rooms for hours. I understand this and understand why he would hoard food. That's not the issue now. The issue now is that he seems to think anything and everything is his to eat. Doesn't matter if he knows it's not his (doggy bag from restaurant), doesn't matter if he's been told not to eat it because it's for something specific. If he decides he wants it or decides he's hungry, he eats it.
He ate cookie dough till he was full, let the dog knaw on it and gave me some bull story about how the dog OPENED THE FRIG and got it out.
I had a frozen pumpkin roll in the freezer. I found it in his room in a desk drawer.
I buy duplicates of things that I need for something because I know he'll want it. I TELL him..this one is MINE....this one is YOURS. He consumes both without batting an eye.
I buy a bag of chicken patties from the Schwan guy. It's gone in a DAY.
This is a pattern with him...always has been.
Today I was at my dad's. difficult child calls me and asks if I'm going to pick something up for supper on my way home. I said yes because while I wasn't grabbing the almighty McD's, I would be getting some milk and something thawed out to cook. I get home and he had fixed himself an ENTIRE freaking bag of Schwans french fries. THE ENTIRE @#$%^&*( BAG.
Alrighty then. Guess I don't have to cook tonight because he is NOT eathing another *&^%$# thing.
I am not working. My unemployment has run out. I have a couple of hundred bucks left on my unemployment card for groceries for 2 adults, a walking garbage disposal, 2 dogs, 1 inside cat and the strays that I feed as cheap as possible. It would be one thing if he ate all that he fixed or got into but he doesn't. He eats what he wants, pitches the rest, leaves it open to get stale, leaves it out to rot or whatever. I don't have the money to supply him with all the carap he wants. I'll fix a good meal for dinner. He'll have a chicken pattie or 20.
(OMG at this point I want a cigarrette soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo bad.)
I want him out of this house and I want him out NOW. husband says he's working on it. Uh huh. WTH??? We have less than 2 months until the semester is over. The school is bending over backwards to get difficult child graduated because this is his THIRD attempt at it and he only has SIX classes to pass. SIX!!! husband is out of town for work and called me on break. I relayed a brief rant to him and delcared my desire to have an empty bedroom in the house. This was when he said he's working on it. He says he's working on getting difficult child into a group home which is actually what I want for him also. But when I asked husband what his plans were when difficult child refuses to do this, husband, in all his brilliant genius says that difficult child CAN'T refuse.
WHAT?????
The boy is 19. He's his own guardian. He can do (or not do) whatever the %$#$# he wants legally. He's already declared that he is not doing the group home. It's for "retards" and he's not one.
Honestly, I can't see husband throwing difficult child out. There's always a reason why we can't. He needs to graduate, it's cold, it's Wednesday, he doesn't have a place to go....blah blah blah.
All I can say is that SOMEONE will be leaving.